Do women want to hear what men have to say?

This is the most important conversation you will ever have about relationships.  Many say communication is the most important part of a relationship.  What they fail to realize is listening is the most important part of communication.  What makes this discussion so important is not how you listen.  It is what you are listening to when you are listening to another.  What you are listening to is what determines the difference between a great or lousy relationship. 

What do I mean?  Everyone is taught to judge and assess people and situations.  Your judgments and assessments are the things you inherited from your environment.  They are beliefs that cause you to predetermine what a person is like.  Your environment not only includes your family.  It includes school, movies, books, news, friends, etc.  Your environment provides you with the facts of life, even if what was provided was inaccurate.  If you repeat a lie enough times, it becomes a fact for the believer.  In the US, there are many beliefs that have been passed down for generations.   

As examples, for decades, people have said that women can tell a man any secret.  You will never have to worry about him telling anyone because he was never listening.  There are so many jokes about how women listen to men.  There are also sayings that claim men are responsible for a woman’s happiness – happy wife, happy life.  Then there are the jokes about women always being right.  While these may be said in jest, they have become building blocks in relationships.  It also includes things like women are more intelligent and mature than men.  One of the most famous beliefs passed down is men only want one thing. 

Over the decades, these have become part of the culture in the US.