Transactional Analysis and Communication

We learn how to communicate within a family early in our life---encouraged to speak up when we're hurting or put down through negative statements---how we deal with them determines the relationship;s we have in the future---talk about what I went through as a child and how it shaped me as an adult. (family history--how it affects their adult relationships---parents, cousins, --where they come from)---how you have to want to change and control your own life---then article on TA and Communication.

There are support groups and places to go to be with people experiencing the same issues

Family history heritage---past influence present---values change as times change---good communication is a learned skill--watch certain family shows or read romance novels father or mother know exactly what to say but that's not reality and you can say some hurtful things even if you don't mean it

Tell a little about family background—how behaviors passed from 1 generation to the next—product of the home you come from—if come from close knit family—will recreate that with spouse and children

Berne’s model is a three part ego-state model.   An ego state is

• “A consistent pattern of feeling and experience directly related to a corresponding consistent pattern of behaviour”.

There are three ego states in Berne’s model:

• Parent,
• Adult,
• Child. 

Ego states are ‘things’ not names. They are a set and related; thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Communication between people can be from one ego state to a different one or from one ego state to the same ego state.

People who should listen to this show are therapists--people in need