Urban Therapy with Sun #81 Missing The Old Me

We all make chaanges in our lives. Some changes are big and some of them are small compared to others but there comes a time when we are growing that we can't do the same things that we used to do. It can take us awhile to get to the point where we see that we really need to make that change. We may try and fail a few times before we finally get it right, but once it's done it's done.

Whenever you stop smoking or drinking or doing drugs or womanizing or prostituting or lying or cheating or even doing something positive like attending church or participating in community events or charity, people sometimes have a tough time adjusting to the changes that you've made to youself and may have a hard time accepting the new you. Some may test you to see if you've really changed. Good or bad they may miss some of the crazy and funny things you used to do when you were who and what you used to be. They may miss the old you. You may miss the old you too.

For example if you're a woman that didn't used to get caught up emotionally with men but used to receive gifts and money for men but has since changed and is now getting closer to God and is seeking more meaningful and monogamous relationships, it can be devestating to have to put up with a bunch of b.s. from your man who is not putting out financially the way you used to have it. Same b.s. but less benefits. Less benefits other than doing the right thing anyway. Things like this can cause a person to revert back to their old ways if they are not strong and have folks around them to reinforce staying positive.

Here are some examples to consider:

The money getting drug dealer

The money getting drug dealers girlfriend

Changing from a job that pays daily like being a barber or hairdresser to a job that pays bi-weekly for less pay but better benefits like health and retirement.

There's much more to this. Just think about it.