"Control Freaks" That Bully!

Today on HELP! Relationships 102, we address the unique branch of controllers within the ranks of "Control Freaks" persona, that are not controlling out of fear to minimize their pain as most personalities with control issues, tend to do. But we are speaking to that special minority of controllers that prey upon the weaknesses of others. We are referring to... the bullies!

Over the years I have become increasingly convinced that those that dominate others simply because they can, are typically unaware of the kind of persons they have allowed themselves to become! They are often so resentful at their spouse because of that spouses  tendency to be over— compliant, that they focus more on their spouses perceived weakness and inability to stand up to them, when maybe they should  be more concerned about their own inability to stand up to themselves! I always say "Just because you can, doesn't always mean you should!" Just because you do have the strength to exert your will over others, doesn't mean you should. Just because your personality is more powerful than your spouse's, doesn't mean that you should exploit their weakness for the sake of your own benefit. Just because you are stronger than your spouse doesn't mean you should take advantage of them. 

And for those of us who do — we need to really ask ourselves if this is the person we want to be!  Do we really want to be that person??!!! Is always getting my way because I can, worth it—  especially, when it may be at the expense of my soul??!!! 

Join us as we speak to the bully that can often be found in us all