God Will Not Excuse Bondage of Any Kind

Hearing God tell us to "suck it up" doesn't sound too pleasant, especially when you are the victim of a misfortune. Any normal person should ask why God would hold the hurting, violated or weak believer responsible for the direction that their lives take. After all, shouldn't He sympathize with those who were victims? Shouldn't He pardon all who are in their situations because someone sinned AGAINST them? Does God expect too much? Is He a fair God? Is it right for Him to force us out of our comfort zones?