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  • 01:21

    Healing Addiction, Part 1- Child Sexual Abuse and Addiction

    in Lifestyle

    Sometimes the memories are too much to hold inside.  Sometimes the pain just gets too big.  Medicating our pain as survivors of child sexual abuse is one way to survive.


    But as long as we are addicted, we will never thrive.  Addiction kills relationships, careers, healing and spiritual growth.  Addiction takes the life out of us and returns the destruction of all we hold dear in exchange for killing the pain.


    David Pittman, director of Together We Heal, knows both the pain of abuse AND the pain of addiction.  And now he knows the joy of helping others get free from both.  Join David and Misa as they bring hope for healing from addiction and child abuse.


    Learn more about Together We Heal- http://together-we-heal.org/


    Learn more about Misa Leonessa and her services- http://misacoach.com

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1080

    in Self Help

    Tonight's was originally planned to be a show dedicated to a special guest. But instead there was a robust discussion of a variety of topics, chiefly about the how media covers (and doesn't cover) the issues of child abuse and trauma. We also talked about the important role played by reliable government statistics. Criticism of how media and government presentations was directed at our ability as a group to impress upon the general public that the issues we cover, child abuse and trauma, are as important to them as almost anything else we consider a priority to address in America. Bill Murray, NAASCA founder, was joined by Carol Levine from New Jersey, our cio-host, and by Max "from Montana." Tonight's show featured NAASCA panelist's thoughts and ideas about how to engage the public and provide resources, services and programs to anyone with an interest in fighting against child abuse and trauma.

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1086

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest guest is Chuck Prinzen from Fairfield California, a survivor and activist who, as an educator, has worked with youth for many years. His current project, Me Inc Now, is being developed to offer guidance to teens (and their parents). Chuck says whet he survived "cycles of life," and says his story of abuse is no different than many others who have experienced abuse, the same torment, pain, feelings of loneliness and despair. "My journey from nothingness to a fulfilling life was not altered by one specific event," he writes, "but a series of events over many years, change came one thought at a time. It was not till I was older that I could clearly see the past; they say that hindsight is twenty-twenty, mine was not, it was blurry." He goes on, "The first step to seeing the past clearly was when a kindhearted gift of love was given to me by a stranger." Chuck's principal goal to help instill self-worth, self-esteem, and self-respect in today's youth, and that's that Me.Inc.Now (me expressing I need change now) is all about! The mission of Me.Inc.Now is to instill self-worth, self-esteem, and self-respect in today's youth. A brighter future can be achieved by incorporating cultural change in our youth of today through understanding lessons of the past to bridge the ever growing generation gap. Change is built upon a foundation of communication, listening, and love. Me.Inc.Now is committed to inspiring positive thoughts and breaking cycles of anger and resentment that prevent young individuals from being the best version of themselves. "I am thankful for learning that “love” is most the powerful tool in my emotional toolbox," Chuck writes, no more sorrow and loneliness, no more bruises, no more pain, no more fear.

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1084

    in Self Help

    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 11 - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, from NYC, author of the book “Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 11: "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." Step Eleven is the daily practice and experience of deepening your awareness of your Higher Power through prayer and meditation. You are capable of prayer and meditation, regardless of your background or history. If you set aside the time daily, you can reach for whatever you believe is greater than, deeper than, or beyond yourself. Step Eleven also assumes that by now you have a conscious awareness of your Higher Power, and you are drawn to deepening that connection. ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery is grateful for the spiritual recovery she found in the 12 Steps of AA. She's been active in the 12 Step community for over 17 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 12. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1082

    in Self Help

    Q & A Night - Call in .. ask questions .. Tonight's THEME: How bullying behaviors can lead to abusive behaviors. NAASCA family member Mary Romero from Richmond, VA, an abuse survivor herself, will lead the discussion about bullying. We are consistently hearing about bullying in our schools, nearly on a daily basis. It has become an epidemic. When bullying behaviors goes un-checked, they can lead to abusive behaviors whether in children or adults alike. There have been far too many children who have taken their own lives due to being bullied and this evening's discussion will help give us the information and tools that parents can use in helping their children deal with bullying and it's negative effects. Now an anti-child abuse advocate, Mary is a Life Coach and author of the book "The Breakdown of an All-American Family: an autobiography of child abuse domestic violence and recovery." She'll soon be coming out with a follow-up book, "Repurposing Your Pain," meant to help survivors learn to become thrivers! ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1085

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    Tonight's special guest is Jay Lore from Laurel. Maryland, child abuse survivor and author  of the book "Sometimes You Lose, Sometimes You Learn: How I went to a party one night for twenty years and lived to tell about it." Jay is transgendered from woman to man, and agrees this was a part of his recovery, of "being comfortable living inside his own skin." That wasn't always the case. "I was 4 years old when it started, I don't know at what age the physicality stopped. I was 32 when I first spoke it out loud to someone." Because of the abuse, Jay turned to drugs early on. "I did my first drugs at age 11. LSD, to be exact. It escalated from there. In group my councilor used to get me to read my drug list because it was so extensive and there were things she'd never heard of. There were three suicide attempts. "I was a cutter. I loved the feel of the blade, the sting as it pierced my skin, the pain told me I was able to feel .. something. I lost my kids." Eventually Jay called an 800 drug line. That was in 1987, and Jay's been clean now for over 28 years. "I've been telling my story every chance I get," he says, "to anyone who will listen and some who don't want to hear it." He offers his book for free. Jay now lives with his oldest daughter and her family. He attends and serves at church faithfully. "It's about reaching that one someone that needs to hear my story as only I can tell it. To get that one to realize there is hope and love and light. And most importantly, that they need never walk alone again." 

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1081

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    Tonight's special guest is Brittany Ecton from Olathe, Kansas, a 26 year old single mother who's a child abuse and adoption trauma survivor and activist. Still in early recovery, this will be the first time she tells her story in public. Sexually abused by her father, a belligerent drunk, she recalls being "conditioned" by him for years. A deeply troubled child her parents took her to many therapists, she says, ".. and every time I hinted at the abuse they would switch, and they forced medication on me for years." Her mother neglected her throughout her entire life and never showed her love or any form of kindness. "She had 3 other kids and it was obvious she loved them and not me." She explains, "I started acting out my abuse with my brother as a child, and the memories are so dark that I can't bare to even look at my brother anymore, without hating my entire body and mind for those memories. Once my hormones kicked in, I became ashamed of my body and life, I had no friends and no life, and I was tormented by kids for being different." A troubled teenager, she broke all the rules, before 18 had 7-8 suicide attempts. "I got pregnant at 19 and my mother forced me into giving my baby away due to no money, help or support, and I lived in a homeless shelter for 7 months." At 21 she married her friend, Zachary, a bad boy doing everything wrong who she'd knows since 15 years old. "He was in the military and promised to save me from my life," she shared. Returning from Afghanistan 80% disabled presented Brittany with new problems, and the additional challenge of giving birth to their son. In the middle of everything else she discovered she'd been adopted! Now married 4 years and seeing a therapist, Brittany's still struggling with doing what's best for herself and her young son.

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1083

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    Tonight's special guest is Olivia Martinez from Pico Rivera, CA, child abuse survivor and Employment Coordinator at the California Department of Rehabilitation who says she always aims at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Immigrating from Mexico in the 60's her family lived in the largely Latino East LA area. Her father was a blue collar worker who suffered from alcoholism. "I always felt alone," she wrote. But her mother spend the majority of her time dealing with her father's alcoholism. Olivia was repeatedly sexually abused by a cousin, eight years older than her. The first incident of this was when she was about three, but the last time was in adulthood. "I grew up eating my anxiety away and reached 375 pounds in adulthood. I was fat and felt like a monster." Eventually she began working on herself. "I had gastric bypass and lost all my excess weight. I began kick boxing I learned how to physically to not let anyone hurt me gain. The recovery period has been long and imperfect." Olivia began therapy for the first time when unsuccessfully trying to prevent a break up with her boyfriend, but eventually found more appropriate help at the East Los Angeles Woman Center where they assist woman who have been sexually and/or physically abused. "I have developed a more keen relationship with myself," she says, "and continue to work on me and my developmental stages and inner conflict I go through every day. I now am ready to let the world know my story and take what happened to me and embrace all the good things of who I am. I am preparing to finally forgive men in general for what one man did to me, and I want to one day forgive him for changing the course of my life and introducing a struggle that will never go away."

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1079

    in Self Help

    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "For Our Kids" - Deborah Maddison and Tracy Baxter, Canadian activists from British Columbia, will join Bill Murray to lead this evening's discussion about the Rights of Children and Families in North America. Tonight's TOPIC: "Breaking The Bonds of Parental Alienation and Systemic Abuse" Nothing stirs up passions more than the controversy generated when parents are at war over the custody of a child. With the pathological 'win-lose' mentality of our family courts and CPS increasingly abducting and witholding children from loving parents to support the many industries that feed off commodifying our children, the system is aiding and abetting abuse, and reaping the financial rewards at the expense of our children and families. Join us as we speak with parents and advocates Keith Marsolek, Carolyn MacCloud and Marcie Harding who will be sharing their heartbreaking and frankly outrageous stories of alienation enabled by this system. Learn the steps they are taking to fight this devastating injustice both for themselves and others who are facing this brutal and overwhelming situation. We are also pleased to welcome back panelist, advocate and author Robin Karr, who's own incredible story remains one of the most corrupt and cruel examples of judicial terrorism we have ever encountered. ~~ Every two weeks a new THEME will be presented in this series, with frequent special guests speaking from their own experience. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/ForOurKids or write to: naasca.forourkids@gmail.com

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1073

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    Tonight's special guest is Stacie Kelly from Victoria BC, an abuse survivor and activist who's serving as the Coordinator for 1st Annual #NoMoreShame Conference 2015, being put on by Trauma University which will be held June 26, 27 & 28th in Portland, Oregon. It's described as "For Survivors. By Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse." Born and raised an Oregonian, Stacie describes herself as, "an exceptionally positive individual who enjoys staying busy." But, she explains, "About three years ago I was diagnosed with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). I am a survivor of a decade of incest - an unfortunate multi-generational pattern of abuse that extends as far back as three generations ago. I am on bi-daily antidepressant medication(s) and am currently in weekly somatic counseling." She says, "Childhood trauma is still a relatively new field of study and it is often overshadowed by Veterans and/or people with Traumatic Brain Injuries. My hope is to shed light on the daily life of someone struggling with mental wellness and provide insight on the impact of sexual abuse and silence." And true to form she's not just sitting back waiting for others to make further developments in the field. "I am currently working in a volunteer capacity as a Conference Coordinator for Trauma Recovery University. I speak every day to survivors around the globe who are interested in participating in our conference. It is survivor led and born out of passion to break the cycle of shame, silence and abuse."

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1078

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    Tonight's special guest is Dusty Farrah Cooley from Nettleton, Mississippi, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, incest, and rape. "Looking back," she writes, "it's extremely difficult to understand how I survived it all. But I did, and with God's help, of course." She goes on, "I believe that speaking out concerning my abuse/rape is what 'my calling' is." Sexually abused from the ages of 8-15 years of age, Dusty reports she did what do most 'disturbed' children do at this age. They act out. "And that's what I did. I got into fights at school, resulting in being expelled. I was labeled a 'trouble-maker' by my teachers and parents." She got no help. "Nobody reached out to me during those years. Why, I even wrote a story concerning a young girl being sexually abused by her best friend's father, and still, nobody caught on. But I eventually made a turn around, when I accepted Jesus as my Savior. I finished high school and became an RN." Dusty Farrah describes herself as a Beautiful Survivor, writing, ".. it's kind of weird hearing myself say 'survivor.' Because for years I remember just remaining in bondage. Never would I have considered myself as a survivor. For as long as I can remember, I self-medicated, cut and put myself down." She continues, "I guess you can say I hated myself, even more than my abusers. But that was the OLD Farrah. I'm a fighter now." In fact she describes herself today as a warrior and conqueror. "I'm in a new place now, and I love where I'm at. I love where I am in my life now. No longer do I look at myself and see defeat and warfare."