Desperate? Settling for less than what YOU are believing for

We settle in our relationships too because we are scared to be alone and lose the stability a relationship offers. Fear paralyzes people and holds them back. Many people suffer with tremendous amounts of self-doubt and are unable to believe they are good enough. There are always better options out there, but too many people have low self-esteem, which prevents them from realizing this. It’s better to be alone than it is to want to be alone.

Although something may not be what someone really wants, it is likely that it has become a habit and it’s more comfortable to maintain the status quo than to challenge themselves. You have to fight through all the obstacles that lie between where you are and where you want to be.

People settle for mediocrity in many aspects of their lives on a daily basis. We accept jobs we hate, we deal with friends who let us down and we let our significant others get away with sh*t. Why do people choose to be complacent instead of moving where there are better opportunities? Life is just one big cost-benefit analysis; we make decisions by comparing the outcomes of different courses of actions. People assume that certain actions should not be taken unless the benefits outweigh the costs. It is the fundamental evaluation behind practically every decision a person will make in his or her life.

People are terrified of change, failure and taking risks. This is one of the main reasons people settle in life. It’s not about unrealistic goals or perfection. It is about changing the things you can to be happy, not simply drifting along in life and complaining. It is far easier to settle than it is to leave our comfort zone. We create endless excuses to justify our complacency and all that it will result in is our looking back with regret and a slightly bruised ego, wishing we hadn’t settled.