As I have been approaching 50, I have found that there is so much more life inside of me. I have found that I want to create a life that I don't need a vacation from or a break. Now, let's be clear, I am not advocating the path that I have taken, but start to look at your life and realize that you have so much more potential inside of you that is undiscovered.
Too many times we resign ourselves to what is and that is all there is. We don't step out of the box and start taking are deep rooted dreams on. We say to ourselves, "I am to old", "I have too much going on", "I have kids", "I don't have time or money", "I can't do that"...does this sound familiar?
Once you give yourself permission to live, you will be able to do what it is that you truly want. When we have families, we always put ourselves last; even when the kids are grown and out of the house, we don't give ourselves permission to live. I have amazing people in my life who said to me, I can do whatever I want. Instead of fighting for the rest of your life, make the change and start living.
It took me about 8 months to realize I could be doing so much more. When I gave myself the actual permission to divorce, everything happened very quickly; again, I am not advocating what my path is. I realized that my ex and I are better at being friends than partners. I also realized when I made the decision we were both set free. We worked at making our marriage work for 14 years, until I realized it is not ever going to work. We were both on different paths and we were never meeting in the middle. At some point we need to make a change.
Life is amazing if you allow yourself to live it. My ex and I are still friends and will always be in each other’s life, however we never have to fight about anything again.