Taking Your Emotions Out Of Your Divorce Negotiations

Divorce professionals say it's best to approach your divorce negotiations as a business discussion but how do you take your emotions out of it?

First, let's remember why these discussions need to be more business:

• the legal system is not set up to resolve disagreements based on moral arguments. The judges are bound by statutes and case law. That doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't pursue a resolution you feel is morally right but recognize that doing so is likely going to mean increased legal expenses with no certainty of outcome. It's risky and the process for pursuing such resolutions through the court system is emotionally draining.
• often times decisions based on emotions are not the best long term or even short term decisions. The classic example of this is the person who is determined to keep the marital home, and does so but then finds themselves struggling every month to make ends meet with little disposable income. A more rational analysis of this during negotiations might have shown this lightly outcome and opened the path to looking at alternatives.
• ideally what we want is to make decisions that we won't later regret. We want to look back in five years time and remember the reasoning for each decision and to believe it was the best decision we could have made at the time with the information we had at the time.

The problem however is that no one tells you how to park your emotions. That's what we're talking about in this episode. And for this one we've turned the tables. This time Mandy is being interviewed by divorce coach Sahaj Durnin from Divorce With Ease.

For a synopsis, please visit Mandy's blog, Since My Divorce.