Is Your Marriage Stuck? – Reinventing and Revitalizing

All partners in relationship deserve to be seen, validated, loved and heard. 

 

The first will be how we “see” our partner and how our expectations change as their roles change in our lives. When they go from boyfriend/girlfriend to husband/wife and when they go from husband/wife to mother/father big changes occur in the relationship that no one was expecting. These changes in actions, roles, and expectations can send a couple into stuckness or spiral. Since we take on beliefs from our parents and families that sit underneath the surface of our psyche, we need to identify the expectations of each partner and find common ground.

 

A second place of stuckness is not feeling loved and appreciated by our partners. We tend to show love to our partner the way WE want to be loved – not the way that they wish or need to be loved. In discovering the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

 

Finally, most couples have a difficult time communicating and being heard by their partner. Based on their own lives, they make assumptions when a statement or sentence is said. Something as simple as “Cindy, your shoes are in the living room.” Can have very different meanings to each person. I will share a fun game that I learned from an amazing therapist many years ago that can help ANY relationship benefit. This game brings effort, humor, and consciousness to a relationship that has had very little of that in the past.

 

It is essential that each partner be seen, feel appreciated, loved and heard in relationship. That is our job as partners so that we can enjoy healthy, happy relationship.

 

Cindy Battino, ACSM, CCS

Brennan Healing Science Practitioner

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