Loving with Mis-guided intent

Have you ever known someone that learned to tie his or her shoe by doing it on another person’s foot? Do you know of someone that achieved fame and fortune by compelling another person forward first, and hoping that person would exalt them? Both of these scenarios sound ridiculous, but they are prime examples of exactly what we tend to do in our attempt to manifest through others, the things that should already exist with-in our own lives. The opportunity to love is often used to obtain what it is that we desire, rather than what we should be giving. But it's hard to give what you've never received. Sometimes what you're looking for must first live in you. Then are you able to give it, but love must first be given to you through you. Mis-guide reasons for being in love has been the root of many failed relationships today. Have you learned to let love first live in you? Or are you vulnerable to hap-hazard relationships?