"Family Talk Wednesday" Why Hurt People Hurt People

It is an old adage that says “hurt people hurt people.”It is well known that those who have been emotionally damaged tend to inflict their hurt and pain on other people. 

The following are common traits hurt people display in their interactions with others.

*Hurt people often transfer their inner anger onto their family and close friends.

*Hurt people interpret every word spoken to them through the prism of their pain.

*Hurt people interpret every action through the prism of their pain.

*Hurt people often portray themselves as victims and carry a “victim spirit”.

*Hurt people often alienate others and wonder why no one is there for them.

*Hurt people have the emotional maturity of the age they received their (un-dealt with) hurt.

*Hurt people are often frustrated and depressed because past pain continually spills over into their present consciousness.

*Hurt people often erupt with inappropriate emotion because particular words, actions, or circumstances “touch” and “trigger” past woundedness.

*Hurt people often occupy themselves with busyness, work, performance, and/or accomplishments as a way of compensating for low self-esteem.

*Hurt people often attempt to medicate themselves with excessive entertainment, drugs, alcohol, ography, sexual relationships, or hobbies as a way to forget their pain and run from reality.

*Hurt people have learned to accommodate their private “false self” or “dark side” which causes them to be duplicitous and lack integrity.