"Men Talk Monday" Why Do Men Have Affairs

Love has been a universal value since time immemorial. It is an unwritten law that has governed everyone around the world. It has blossomed into many beautiful things, like the union of a man and woman who are in love with each other. So when we hear a woman shedding tears of betrayal, we end up asking, “Why do men have affairs?” Below are four paragraphs that explain the reason behind the infidelity of husbands. After each paragraph are a couple of italicized questions that encourage wives to ponder on their marriage and consequently, prevent any straying possibility from happening.

Insecurity. A man who feels unworthy of his spouse, who hasn’t accepted his true identity and who lacks self-esteem may resort to infidelity. If he can’t handle this healthily, he distracts himself from this negativity like seeing another woman. When he gets acknowledgment and appreciation from her, his ego boosts up and before he knows it, he’s hooked up with his unfaithful feelings. The betrayed wife then sulks and asks, “Why do men have affairs?” How can I make him feel that I am proud of his talents, abilities and character? Do I make him feel we both deserve each other?

Dissatisfaction. Every man expects something from his wife and their relationship. He may need sexual variety but she prefers only one position. He may want to spend a Friday night watching football with his buddies but she demands they should spend more time together. When these aren’t met, he enjoys the company of those who are more sensitive to his needs. Do I allow my husband to communicate his desires and preferences in our relationship? Do we meet halfway to satisfy our needs?