What To Do When Old Baggage Haunts Your New Relationship

There is a lot of advice on the Internet about how to find a quality man who is the perfect match for me. In fact, all the advice has worked! And I've found a really terrific guy that I am totally into on many levels. We've been dating for a couple of months now, and I know he really likes me, too. But despite knowing this, I seem to be wrestling daily with a monkey on my back. Before I met my new man I was a strong, confident woman. And now that I'm in this relationship I'm finding that all my old fears and insecurities (the ones I was sure I had dealt with) are ALL coming back to haunt me. I've tried to snap myself out of it. I've tried to reason with myself that these fears are "false expectations appearing real." But to no avail, I just can't seem to shake the monkey! So my question is, how do you manage all of the fears and insecurities that come up at the beginning of a new relationship?

Ask yourself these four questions about your fear(s):

1. How true is this really?
(Give evidence for why it IS and is NOT true)

2. Where did I learn this?
(This is HUGE! And usually gives you those proverbial ah-ha! moments!)

3. What is it costing me?
(How is hanging onto this fear holding you back?)

4. How do I let it go?
(In your own unique way what can you do to ACCEPT yet RELEASE the fear?)