Ladies! How To Allow Someone Love You

As a personal survivor of a few awful break ups, this resistance to intimacy makes complete sense to me. Our minds go to great lengths to avoid repeating past pain. If the script in your mind is telling you “Remember the last time you opened up to someone? It really didn’t end well for you…” then you will have a natural reluctance to opening up to anyone else.

But you must. For your emotional fulfillment, and that of your partners, you have to learn how to let people in. You can amass a perfect structure of health, wealth, and personality… but if it is all a front to keep people at arm’s distance then you won’t ever be truly fulfilled. Maybe there was an awful break up. Maybe someone cheated. Or someone made you feel not good enough.

And you’re afraid to let someone in. By learning to choose vulnerability and let someone see you for who you are, you will gain access to a world of fulfillment, joy, creativity, and blissful love.

1. Figure Out Your Emotional Patterns: Everyone has them, but few people are aware of what they are.

2. Communication: Once you figure out what your fears and emotional patterns are telling you, make sure you let your partner in on them.

3. Let Them Love You When You Need It The Most: Let your partner help you when you feel at your weakest… they want to help you through your old pain.

Why Is Intimacy So Scary? Love will always be a risk. But you can either risk letting someone see you for who you are, or you can risk not having ever experienced a true intimacy.