Can You Love After The Passion Is Gone

Cognitive components

1. Thinking about or being preoccupied with your partner
2. Idealizing your partner or the relationship
3. Wanting to know your partner and wanting your partner to know you

Emotional components

1. Being sexually attracted to and aroused by your partner
2. Feeling good when things go well
3. Feeling bad when things go badly
4. Loving and wanting to be loved in return
5. Wanting complete and permanent union

Behavioral components:

1. Trying to find out how your partner feels
2. Providing service to your partner
3. Being physically close to your partner

Passionate love clearly involves more than sexual attraction. The cognitive, other emotional and behavioral components balance out the urge to get physical with your loved one.