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  • 01:12


    in Lifestyle

    When we are active in an addiction, we can feel like there is no one else in the whole world like us. “Alcoholics are screw ups and losers,” we tell ourselves, “whereas I seemed to have developed this drinking problem in spite of doing everything else in my life to a high level of excellence. I am the most unlikely alcoholic ever.” In fact, alcoholics share many common personality traits, and surprisingly that includes perfectionism. On this episode we discuss the various ways perfectionism can manifest in our lives, why it is so common to those who struggle with addiction, and some suggestions for easing perfectionist ways.

  • 00:30


    in Spirituality

    Mark and Ralph look at the dynamics of perfectionism.

  • 01:00

    LUwJC#038 Perfectionism; The Addiction That Is Killing Your Aliveness

    in Self Help

    Do you believe that there is such a thing as Perfection?
    Is Perfection obtainable?
    Is Perfection a determining factor on your self worth or value?

    Today on Lighten Up with Jen and Cheri you are invited to consider how your relationship with the idea of Perfection is impacting your Life. With stories and questions designed to spark curiosity Jen invites you to face into any lies you have bought about Perfection.

    Are you ready to make changes that will free you from the addictive thoughts and behaviors that keep you locked in a cycle of self abuse?

    Join Jen Halterman as she invites you into your Aliveness and out of the misery called Perfectionism.

    Learn more about Jen Halterman

    Learn more about Cheri Gillham

  • 00:52

    Compassion and Perfectionism Don't Mix; Learn How To Feel Good.

    in Self Help

    Compassion is defined as benevolence, charity, empathy, grace, kindness, and good will.

    It’s different from sympathy.

    You may think you only deserve compassion once you accomplish something(so you deserve it), but then after you accomplish it, you feel you could have done better. It wasn’t perfect. When you’re in a state of comparing or labeling something as not good enough because it’s not perfect, where can compassion live? It cannot exist.

    This idea that we must show up in a certain way and be “perfect” for others to accept us is backwards. You must be compassionate with yourself first, and then with the rest of the world. And to do that, you have to take off the mask. Perfection is an illusion, and it doesn’t force others into compassion for you. Perfectionism keeps us from acceptance.

    This week I look at the push and pull between compassion and perfection. The mind is never satisfied when it is looking for the perfect picture. And compassion is necessary for self-acceptance. Learn how to dig yourself and get past that inner judge!

  • 00:03

    Letting Go of Spiritual Perfectionism!

    in Self Help

    Could you be mired in 'Spiritual Perfectionism' and not even know it? What is it? Tune into this LIVE show and find out what it is and why Robert says everyone is affected by it in ways that shut down Destiny. Get ready to have your perfectionist paradigm shaken and stirred so you can finally enjoy the dirty martinis of your life! To speak to Robert dial 818.495.6927

  • 00:31

    The Pitfalls of Sinless Perfectionism with Todd Tomasella and Frank Telford

    in Christianity

    “Stop All Sinning”?


    The Deceitful, Idolatrous Underpinnings of the
    Stopping all Sinning Focus

    Stop all Sinning Idolatry

    “Which say, Stand by thyself, come not near to me; for I am holier than thou. These are a smoke in my nose, a fire that burneth all the day.” Isaiah 65:5

    Holy living? YES!

    But how?

    Authentic, divine holiness comes at surrender, not by striving.

    “That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;” Philippians 3:10

    The sinning these street preaching, self-righteous idolaters need to repent of is preaching a false gospel – one that does not uphold Jesus Christ as the supreme and glorious Savior and LORD but rather has redirected the focus of many to the futile, pretentious act of trying to “stop all sinning” all by oneself.

    whole post here: http://safeguardyoursoul.com/the-idolatrous-underpinnings-of-the-stopping-all-sinning-focus/




  • 01:20

    Is My Perfectionism Preventing Me From Achieving My Goals

    in Spirituality

    Is my desire to be perfect preventing me from moving forward in my life?  Perfectionism when in control allows you to be at the top of your game by providing that razor shape edge that makes you stand above the rest.  Perfectionism when out of control is a subterfuge for fear of failure.  It’s a self imposed limiting belief.   It’s easier to set your bar to an unattainable level, that way you never have to face what people may or may not have to say about you and or your work.  You work very hard at the thing you are producing, but never ever produce a finished product.  You see, it’s always in the making, because it can always be better.  Are you using your perfectionism as a smoke screen to hide behind, or to put you at the top of your game?

    Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at what limiting beliefs and perfectionism.

  • 01:03

    Perfectionism: A Flawless Performance Part II

    in Spirituality

    Psychology Today makes an interesting statement, "For perfectionists, life is an endless report card on accomplishments or looks.  It is a fast track to unhappiness... What makes perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its grip desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure..." 

    On our last show we began to discover the signs, symptoms, strengths and weaknesses of perfectionism.  We discussed the importance of examining the positive and negative aspects of perfectionism, identifying the areas of weakness, and bringing our challenges to God in order to better move towards living a life free from the strains of performance.  

    On this show we will pick up right where we left off to continue our journey to a happier, healthy, and balanced life in Christ.  

    Reference Workbook: Learning to tell myself the truth by Dr. William Backus: A six-week guide to freedom and Anger, Anxiety, Depression, and Perfectionism. 

  • 01:00

    Perfectionism: A Flawless Performance Part I

    in Spirituality

    Have you ever heard of the phrase, "Behavioral continuum?"  Don't worry, most people have not.  A continuum is where there are distinct extremes on opposite sides of a spectrum.  In behavioral continuum can be viewed as a behavior that swings drastically either way past a neutral state. Perfectionism is best understood by describing it as a behavioral continuum where the behavior on either end of the continuum (spectrum) is excessive. Most people picture perfectionism as a good thing.  They see ambitious goals being met, promptness, attention to detail and high expectations achieved.  Yet if we were to peer at the motivation behind the behaviors it might tell a darker story, a story that may need to be addressed. 

    Listen to the show as we look at the strengths and weaknesses of perfectionism towards a more balanced and happy life!

    Reference Workbook: Learning to tell myself the truth by Dr. William Backus: A six week guide to freedom from Anger, Anxiety, Depression, and Perfectionism. 

  • 00:45

    LUwJC#040 Your Aliveness the Antidote for Perfectionism

    in Self Help

    Today on Lighten Up Jen Halterman is solo on the air!
    Is there a way to stay out of the trap of habits of Perfection? Jen says YES!
    By choosing to Be fully engaged in Your Aliveness you have a no time for the distractions that fear sends your way! Join Jen today as she shares tips and suggestions to get you in Alignment with Your Aliveness and how to stay there! Jen will also be addressing the times when you do slip into fear and self doubt and how you can return to your Aliveness in the most easeful way.


    Have questions about this topic? Call in and talk to Jen directly about it! (646) 200-0825

    Learn more about Jen Halterman

  • 00:05

    Drawing The Line On Perfectionism | MMPT

    in Entrepreneur

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