Thankful to my sister B. Nyx for sharing her story.
We don't often talk about self harm in the black community. It is something we, ignorantly, dismiss as a white girl problem. This stems from internalized intra-racism against black womanhood. We expect black women to mule and mammy and never ever hurt. We treat black women as if we are less than human and not capable of making a mistake. (Something I work to check in myself.)
The black woman is a "superhero" without the celebration. Everyone turns To ya but no one congratulates and celebrates is. Rarely do we get the hero's welcome.
Self-harm is a serious issue. In black girls and women it looks like:
Rough sex, for black men who pressure you into it and have no regard for your womb
Raw sex with black men who pressure you into it
Cutting her hair
Engaging in dangerous and risky self-defeatist behaviors
Risky life choices
Accepting bottom of the barrel men.
We have to stop this. For the sisters who have made it through? I encourage you to inbox me for sessions and help. You are not alone. Nor do you have to be.