Sex in The Struggle: the conversation continues

Many Black Men often live in hectic – if not chaotic – environments. The action is non-stop and often seems out of our control and beyond our authority. But nothing in our lives is totally out of our control. And there is a way to relieve our minds. I know I’ve been guilty of making fighting more important than “fucking.” Pontificating more important than copulating. Hypnotized by the struggle, I dismissed romance as a distraction to my calling and my grandiose role in the Black revolution. With keen hindsight I see the error of my myopic and self-righteous behavior. I see the blindness in my self-castration. I see the damage of my self-inflicted wounds caused bymy refusal to forgive the struggle long enough and often enough to surrender to passion.

The new mantra of “forgive” calls on Black Men to make love if they are going to be at war.  Black men must make as much – if not more love - as they battle for liberation. Balance is imperative. Even in our fighting there must be a motivation toward love. Sometimes the fighting has to be put on pause. Sometimes you have to forgive the fighting. Sometimes you got to give it up.

Sexual healing is good for us. It relieves our minds.

Too often we need the “right mood” to make love. We need a good reason.  As if withholding love will create love…

We shouldn’t need a special occasion to make love. We shouldn’t require perfect circumstances to submerge into pure and playful passion.

Contribute to the conversation by calling (657) 383-0185. Listen to us live online at blogtalkradio.com/iforgiveu.  These conversations are based on the book Forgive: the new mantra and practice for Black Men by Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter. Get the book now at ulyssesbutchslaughter.com.