Nigella Lawson: Friends vs. Fans

There’s been a lot of press on Nigella Lawson, the “choking incident” lunch (captured by the tabloid photographer) with her husband, Charles Saatchi. Many of her fans are weighing in about how she should divorce (which was decreed July 31 after 10 years of marriage), or become an advocate for spousal abuse, or, or… news flash: Fans - you don’t know her. You may think you know her, but most of you have never met her in person.

Interestingly, her fans have had more press about this situation than her close friends. Possibly because her true friends are keeping it zipped.

Real Friends Don't Talk

Her friends have offered their support of Nigella, including her good buddy, and former James Bond actor, Pierce Brosnan. And, other friends, including Jemima Khan have been supporting her and not announcing tidbits about their support to the press.

Working in Hollywood

While a producer in Hollywood I worked with a number of celebrities and during one show some stars discussed what happens when a stranger approaches them for a hug. I’ll put that video up on my site www.superfriendgroups.com about one show we produce on this very topic.

How weird they feel that a stranger has such access to your life and offers opinions when they haven’t met you. Although celebrities want to embrace their popularity some fans cross a line.

I was working around the corner on Beverly Boulevard when  actress Rebecca Schaeffer, My Sister Sam, was murdered by a crazed fan.

Public Personas and Characters vs. Real People

If you’re not a friend with a person, and only see them through the media, you’re a fan. Personalities and celebrities truly adore their fans, but until you’ve spent face-to-face time with these folk your a fan... know your boundaries.