Change Your Mindset, Not Your Man: Sally Watkins

Steve is joined by best-selling author, licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Psychotherapist Sally Watkins for an empowering discussion about her book "Change Your Mindset Not Your Man". The book, written as a woman's empowerment book, shows you how to quit being a victim to the cultural myth that a relationship with a soul mate will be your ultimate fulfillment and change the only one you can change-yourself! Unfortunately many a woman has tossed aside good men trying to find the fantasy prince and happily ever after, only to end up disappointed and jaded. Men are not hard wired or socialized for the fantasy relationship that movies, novels, and fairytales promised. All the nagging, complaining and crying just make it worse. Even couples counseling can backfire and just add to the misery if it's the woman who is enlisting the help of a therapist to fix him. How is this book different from other relationship books? The book is about a woman's individuation and empowerment-- learning to be a mature partner who is able to accept her good enough mate and find happiness in a life that doesn't look to him to be her everything. Many relationship books are focused on the problems and how to fix them--a difficult or impractical task for women or couples to do on their own if at all. Sally's approach to relationship success is to accept your partner's imperfections, appreciate the gifts and take responsibility for your own growth.