The Benefits of A Not So Great Relationship!

There are two benefits of a painful relationship. One real, one perceived.

1. Staying stuck gives us an illusion of safety
2. There’s the potential for personal growth

Of course those who look at it as a form of safety–keeping them from taking risks or challenging their beliefs (there’s no one else out there for me)–may do it their entire adult lives and stunt their growth out of fear of the unknown.

So is it a benefit? It is when speaking in terms of adaptability. Humans are incredibly adaptable to their environment (we may grumble–but we adapt). And please remember, most of us don’t do anything unless there is a benefit, no matter how small.

When it comes to the true benefit, the one of growth, we can learn what keeps us tethered to the untenable through growing awareness; allowing our pain and starting to make choices for ourselves. Yup, hard to do… making a decision in favor of taking care of yourself vs. pleasing the other person by abandoning yourself.

Join me and my compadre Cristina DiMeglio for a trip into what makes a bad relationship, why you stay and how to get out and move on!