Multiple Qs on marriage; dad back after 11 yrs.

Dr Julie Helmrich, famous Shrink'n'Drink psychologist from Milwaukee, answered these questions: 1) 20 yr old wants advice on what to do at lunch with father who has been out of life for 11 years; Qs re: Friday, May 24 show: 2) how to break the habit of old fighting, when I am changing old habits but spouse keeps "zinging" with old fight issues? 3) partner thinks she's always right and can't/won't talk about issues that she doesn't think have truely happened, 4) tit-for-tat issue with husband, when he brings up legit issues, I bring up stuff about him that doesn't even bug me that much.