Newly married holiday tradition;fighting well;passive friend

Dr. Julie Helmrich, "Shrink N Drink" psychologist in Milwaukee takes 3 questions: 1) how can a newly married couple create their own holiday tradition? 2) how to bring up valid behavior complaints in a marriage without waiting until the next fight  and just tossing them on the pile of complaints 3) how to get a passive friend to be more active in planning social life