Your Path for Finding Love

“You must know what you want, to find what you want.” Lailah Gifty Akita     

Each time I have the opportunity to share my story, women emerge from all parts of the world and tell me that my story is just like their story. Most of the time, they identify with the story of my marriage or broken heart and they also want love in their lives…so they’ve got questions:

• How long did it take you to get through it?
• What books were helpful to you?
• Did you create a vision or a checklist for your ideal partner?
• How did you meet your husband?
  • (and then because we met online, I get the inevitable…..) Which web site?

We mistakenly think the answer lies in the logistics of what we’re doing. We want the bullet points and action plan that will get us across the finish line.

• Don’t fall in love too soon after a divorce, otherwise that person will simply be a rebound person and it won’t last.
• When someone breaks our hearts, we should be able to get past it and move on quickly. Is there a book for that or some magic bullet?
• I need to begin frequenting the right places to meet the love of my life. I need to find the right dating web site.
• When I meet someone new, I’m need to run through my mental checklist to see how many boxes he checks for the kind of life partner I’m looking for.

Finding love in our lives has nothing to do with the logistics of where we’re going or what tools we’re using.

Finding love has absolutely everything to do with who we need to become in order to attract the kind of love into our lives that we desire.