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  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1085

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Jay Lore from Laurel. Maryland, child abuse survivor and author  of the book "Sometimes You Lose, Sometimes You Learn: How I went to a party one night for twenty years and lived to tell about it." Jay is transgendered from woman to man, and agrees this was a part of his recovery, of "being comfortable living inside his own skin." That wasn't always the case. "I was 4 years old when it started, I don't know at what age the physicality stopped. I was 32 when I first spoke it out loud to someone." Because of the abuse, Jay turned to drugs early on. "I did my first drugs at age 11. LSD, to be exact. It escalated from there. In group my councilor used to get me to read my drug list because it was so extensive and there were things she'd never heard of. There were three suicide attempts. "I was a cutter. I loved the feel of the blade, the sting as it pierced my skin, the pain told me I was able to feel .. something. I lost my kids." Eventually Jay called an 800 drug line. That was in 1987, and Jay's been clean now for over 28 years. "I've been telling my story every chance I get," he says, "to anyone who will listen and some who don't want to hear it." He offers his book for free. Jay now lives with his oldest daughter and her family. He attends and serves at church faithfully. "It's about reaching that one someone that needs to hear my story as only I can tell it. To get that one to realize there is hope and love and light. And most importantly, that they need never walk alone again." 

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1080

    in Self Help

    Tonight's was originally planned to be a show dedicated to a special guest. But instead there was a robust discussion of a variety of topics, chiefly about the how media covers (and doesn't cover) the issues of child abuse and trauma. We also talked about the important role played by reliable government statistics. Criticism of how media and government presentations was directed at our ability as a group to impress upon the general public that the issues we cover, child abuse and trauma, are as important to them as almost anything else we consider a priority to address in America. Bill Murray, NAASCA founder, was joined by Carol Levine from New Jersey, our cio-host, and by Max "from Montana." Tonight's show featured NAASCA panelist's thoughts and ideas about how to engage the public and provide resources, services and programs to anyone with an interest in fighting against child abuse and trauma.

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1082

    in Self Help

    Q & A Night - Call in .. ask questions .. Tonight's THEME: How bullying behaviors can lead to abusive behaviors. NAASCA family member Mary Romero from Richmond, VA, an abuse survivor herself, will lead the discussion about bullying. We are consistently hearing about bullying in our schools, nearly on a daily basis. It has become an epidemic. When bullying behaviors goes un-checked, they can lead to abusive behaviors whether in children or adults alike. There have been far too many children who have taken their own lives due to being bullied and this evening's discussion will help give us the information and tools that parents can use in helping their children deal with bullying and it's negative effects. Now an anti-child abuse advocate, Mary is a Life Coach and author of the book "The Breakdown of an All-American Family: an autobiography of child abuse domestic violence and recovery." She'll soon be coming out with a follow-up book, "Repurposing Your Pain," meant to help survivors learn to become thrivers! ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1083

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Olivia Martinez from Pico Rivera, CA, child abuse survivor and Employment Coordinator at the California Department of Rehabilitation who says she always aims at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Immigrating from Mexico in the 60's her family lived in the largely Latino East LA area. Her father was a blue collar worker who suffered from alcoholism. "I always felt alone," she wrote. But her mother spend the majority of her time dealing with her father's alcoholism. Olivia was repeatedly sexually abused by a cousin, eight years older than her. The first incident of this was when she was about three, but the last time was in adulthood. "I grew up eating my anxiety away and reached 375 pounds in adulthood. I was fat and felt like a monster." Eventually she began working on herself. "I had gastric bypass and lost all my excess weight. I began kick boxing I learned how to physically to not let anyone hurt me gain. The recovery period has been long and imperfect." Olivia began therapy for the first time when unsuccessfully trying to prevent a break up with her boyfriend, but eventually found more appropriate help at the East Los Angeles Woman Center where they assist woman who have been sexually and/or physically abused. "I have developed a more keen relationship with myself," she says, "and continue to work on me and my developmental stages and inner conflict I go through every day. I now am ready to let the world know my story and take what happened to me and embrace all the good things of who I am. I am preparing to finally forgive men in general for what one man did to me, and I want to one day forgive him for changing the course of my life and introducing a struggle that will never go away."

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1081

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Brittany Ecton from Olathe, Kansas, a 26 year old single mother who's a child abuse and adoption trauma survivor and activist. Still in early recovery, this will be the first time she tells her story in public. Sexually abused by her father, a belligerent drunk, she recalls being "conditioned" by him for years. A deeply troubled child her parents took her to many therapists, she says, ".. and every time I hinted at the abuse they would switch, and they forced medication on me for years." Her mother neglected her throughout her entire life and never showed her love or any form of kindness. "She had 3 other kids and it was obvious she loved them and not me." She explains, "I started acting out my abuse with my brother as a child, and the memories are so dark that I can't bare to even look at my brother anymore, without hating my entire body and mind for those memories. Once my hormones kicked in, I became ashamed of my body and life, I had no friends and no life, and I was tormented by kids for being different." A troubled teenager, she broke all the rules, before 18 had 7-8 suicide attempts. "I got pregnant at 19 and my mother forced me into giving my baby away due to no money, help or support, and I lived in a homeless shelter for 7 months." At 21 she married her friend, Zachary, a bad boy doing everything wrong who she'd knows since 15 years old. "He was in the military and promised to save me from my life," she shared. Returning from Afghanistan 80% disabled presented Brittany with new problems, and the additional challenge of giving birth to their son. In the middle of everything else she discovered she'd been adopted! Now married 4 years and seeing a therapist, Brittany's still struggling with doing what's best for herself and her young son.

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1079

    in Self Help

    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "For Our Kids" - Deborah Maddison and Tracy Baxter, Canadian activists from British Columbia, will join Bill Murray to lead this evening's discussion about the Rights of Children and Families in North America. Tonight's TOPIC: "Breaking The Bonds of Parental Alienation and Systemic Abuse" Nothing stirs up passions more than the controversy generated when parents are at war over the custody of a child. With the pathological 'win-lose' mentality of our family courts and CPS increasingly abducting and witholding children from loving parents to support the many industries that feed off commodifying our children, the system is aiding and abetting abuse, and reaping the financial rewards at the expense of our children and families. Join us as we speak with parents and advocates Keith Marsolek, Carolyn MacCloud and Marcie Harding who will be sharing their heartbreaking and frankly outrageous stories of alienation enabled by this system. Learn the steps they are taking to fight this devastating injustice both for themselves and others who are facing this brutal and overwhelming situation. We are also pleased to welcome back panelist, advocate and author Robin Karr, who's own incredible story remains one of the most corrupt and cruel examples of judicial terrorism we have ever encountered. ~~ Every two weeks a new THEME will be presented in this series, with frequent special guests speaking from their own experience. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/ForOurKids or write to: naasca.forourkids@gmail.com

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1078

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Dusty Farrah Cooley from Nettleton, Mississippi, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, incest, and rape. "Looking back," she writes, "it's extremely difficult to understand how I survived it all. But I did, and with God's help, of course." She goes on, "I believe that speaking out concerning my abuse/rape is what 'my calling' is." Sexually abused from the ages of 8-15 years of age, Dusty reports she did what do most 'disturbed' children do at this age. They act out. "And that's what I did. I got into fights at school, resulting in being expelled. I was labeled a 'trouble-maker' by my teachers and parents." She got no help. "Nobody reached out to me during those years. Why, I even wrote a story concerning a young girl being sexually abused by her best friend's father, and still, nobody caught on. But I eventually made a turn around, when I accepted Jesus as my Savior. I finished high school and became an RN." Dusty Farrah describes herself as a Beautiful Survivor, writing, ".. it's kind of weird hearing myself say 'survivor.' Because for years I remember just remaining in bondage. Never would I have considered myself as a survivor. For as long as I can remember, I self-medicated, cut and put myself down." She continues, "I guess you can say I hated myself, even more than my abusers. But that was the OLD Farrah. I'm a fighter now." In fact she describes herself today as a warrior and conqueror. "I'm in a new place now, and I love where I'm at. I love where I am in my life now. No longer do I look at myself and see defeat and warfare."

  • 00:57

    Understanding Business: Leadership, Technology, Consistency & Trust

    in Legal

    On today's show we discuss the importance of providing top-notch customer and client service. We will talk with the author of Nice Guys Finish First, Doug Sandler about his Nice Guy system of Invest, Inspire and Execute


    Doug is an entrepreneur with over 30 years of experience building a successful business as a professional speaker, writer, entertainer and social media influencer, Doug brings his passion and lifestyle of being a Nice Guy to the pages of Nice Guys Finish First. Not only does the book tell Doug's story, but he provides the lessons he learned along the way. Doug's popular writings can be found on Huffington Post, and on his website at www.DougSandler.com Doug graduated with a journalism degree in 1986 from the University of Maryland. His customer service style of being Mr. Nice Guy has become legendary as a part of how he has serviced well over 3,000 clients since graduating from college. As an entertainer, a career changing performance in 1992 was at the foundation of Doug's Nice Guy system of Invest, Inspire and Execute. Since then, Doug has realized the importance of putting relationships before products and services. His clients couldn't agree more. This is Doug's first book and he is excited to bring his system to readers in every industry and every position.


    http://www.amazon.com/Nice-Guys-Finish-First-Sandler/dp/162865161X/ref=sr_1_1/180-6197871-8112165?ie=UTF8&qid=1425310824&sr=8-1&keywords=nice+guys+finish+first


    For more information about UTLRadio please visit us at www.UTLRadio.com 

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1076

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Tim Fisher, a returning NAASCA family member who lives in the Las Vegas area and runs Juvenile Justice Now. Tim, a child abuse survivor, will be with us tonight to describe his experience, strength and hope. Tim was seven years old when he met his predator, a neighbor, teaching Sunday school at the Baptist church. Now Steve Friess has written an article about Tim's important work: One Survivor's Crusade Reveals a Plague of Errors in Nation's Sex Offender Registries. The subtitle: "Estimates of the number of entries with crucial mistakes run into the tens of thousands. One man—and pretty much only one man—is trying to fix them." Tim has told us in the past, "By the time I had reached my 14th birthday I had been sexually molested approximately 350 times over the course of seven years." He continues, "It took four years for me to become strong enough to come forward." Eventually he went to the Anaheim police and reported his abuse and name his predator. From start to finish it took a year almost to the day for him to be convicted. Eventually he took a plea of guilty to 49 counts of child molestation, lewd conducts involving a minor and with the use of force. Sadly although he was sentenced to 2 to 12 years he was released after serving just nine months. "I’m here to remind you that the abuse never stops for the victim," Tim says, "I encourage anyone who has been sexually abused to make a report even if it happened when you were a child." In the recently published article, Steve accompanies Tim to the home of his molester, a registered sex offender.

  • 00:54

    The Understanding Of Passover

    in Prayer

    Join Rabbi Khannah Josué as she shares on the history, tradition, relevance of the celebration of the Passover feast and the importance of Believers understanding the difference between Easter and Passover.

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1072

    in Self Help

    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist will lead the discussion, joined tonight by Dr. David Morehead, who'll talk about his experience with corrections and offenders, and what he sees in the field related to treatment. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org