• 01:29

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    SPECIAL TOPIC - "Open Mike Night" - You'll help decide what will be discussed on tonight's show. This is audience participation night, an informed 90 minute discussion of the many important topics from the world of child abuse and trauma. Call in with your questions and comments for our host, Bill Murray, who'll be joined by other dedicated National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (NAASCA) family members who'll act as panelists. They'll be ready to field questions and conduct topic discussions, many of them suggested by our call-in participants. A huge number continue to suffer from pain, anger, fear, shame and embarrassment for decades. Most will agree their childhood traumas have resulted in an inability to trust, make good decisions and have healthy relationships. But giving up the secret is often how recovery begins, one survivor talking to another. Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in the chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:32

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    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist will be with us, as will special guest Patricia A. McKnight, child abuse activist and NAASCA family member, who will want to discuss the details of terroristic abuse, including guidelines for the Family Terrorist Act, "Trecia's Law." ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

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    SPECIAL TOPIC - "Open Mike Night" - You'll help decide what will be discussed on tonight's show. This is audience participation night, an informed 90 minute discussion of the many important topics from the world of child abuse and trauma. Call in with your questions and comments for our host, Bill Murray, who'll be joined by other dedicated National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (NAASCA) family members who'll act as panelists. They'll be ready to field questions and conduct topic discussions, many of them suggested by our call-in participants. A huge number continue to suffer from pain, anger, fear, shame and embarrassment for decades. Most will agree their childhood traumas have resulted in an inability to trust, make good decisions and have healthy relationships. But giving up the secret is often how recovery begins, one survivor talking to another. Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in the chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Arnold Herman from Keansburg, NJ, a father of five, who, along with his wife, has also fostered 32 children over the years, some of them from abusive backgrounds. He is an author of two books with problem solving ideas related to teenagers, and runs "Experience Counts Inc", a non profit organization working to prevent the abuse of adolescents and teenagers by educating parents and children on ways to deal with each other without getting into abusive situations. Arnold writes, "Parenting an adolescent or teenager is without a doubt one of the toughest jobs in the world it is a 24-hour per day, seven day a week task that requires the patience of a saint, the Wisdom of Solomon, and the money of Bill Gates. By the time we get really good at it, our children have grown to adulthood." And he goes on, "The wrong kind of parenting can lead to many problems. In addition to creating a poor relationship between parent and child, it can often lead to various type of abuse. Abuse of adolescents and teenagers is a terrible, but often preventable, problem. More often then not it starts with a simple lack of communication. Then escalates to verbal and physical abuse The parents who perpetrate this type of abuse are often not bad people, but rather parents who have become frustrated in their attempts to communicate with, relate to, and control their children. Sexual abuse may also start innocently, with parents often unaware of the behavior that could lead to this terrible tragedy." Be sure to download his free handbooks: "Bring Back The Woodshed" and "Raising Reasonable Parents."

  • 01:33

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    Tonight's special guest is Shaunda Gilleland from Collinsville, Oklahoma, a child abuse survivor and single mother who shares she knows she's not yet worked enough on herself. Shaunda's mom was a drug addict and alcoholic who worked nights as a nurse and would leave her two kids in the evenings with her boyfriend. Shaunda was beaten and molested many times by the man, and he threatened to kill her if she ever told. But her bruises were noticed in daycare and she became a foster care child. Eventually she was successfully adopted, but the trauma from her youth dramatically effected her later. She drank and got involved with a series of "the wrong men," one of who raped her, causing a pregnancy and miscarriage. By 21 she was married to a man who drank all the time. She decided she was going to fix him and after numerous bad incidents the two began attending AA and Al-Anon 12 Step programs, together and apart. He began drinking again and she felt like she wasn't good enough. "I ended up cheating on him," Shaunda shares, "I was lost and weak and the guy showed me attention." The couple was divorced. "To be honest I always thought that people who had vivid emotions about their abuse were weak. They where deciding to be the victim," she admits thinking. "I have gone through life telling my story as if it belonged to someone else. Until today." She goes on, "I'm learning that its ok to have fear, feel dirty, feel unwanted. One of my biggest issues in life today is that I have no emotions." Shaunda is reaching out for help, but knows she's had some successes, too. "I started a business 2 years ago. It makes happy and excited. It's something that can't be taken away from me." And she goes on, "My son is now 6, and in my world he loves me regardless."

  • 01:31

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "For Our Kids" - Deborah Maddison, and Tracy Baxter, Canadian activists from British Columbia, will join Bill Murray to lead this evening's discussion about the Rights of Children and Families in North America. Tonight's TOPIC: Are our Family Courts in Contempt? With judges running roughshod over civil rights and ignoring rule of law, as well as abusing the use of contempt charges and then gagging innocent litigants to cover up their actions, who is REALLY in contempt here? It is getting to a point where being a litigant in Family Court is as risky as being a random target on a firing range. We'll speak with legal expert Barry Goldstein, author of the books 'The Quincy Solution' and 'Domestic Violence Abuse and Child Custody,' with Robin Carr, advocate and author of 'The Motherless Child Project,' and with advocate Lori Callies. The cases and rulings they'll be discussing are so completely outrageous and utterly contemptible, you won't believe they are true. But, tragically, they are. This is one show you won't want to miss. ~~  Every two weeks a new THEME will be presented in this series, with frequent special guests speaking from their own experience. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/ForOurKids or write to: naasca.forourkids@gmail.com

  • 01:29

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    Tonight's special guest is Mike Pistorino from Cleveland, OH, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who's now using his voice as a motivational speaker and advocate against child abuse and trauma. As a young child growing up in the Bronx, neglected by his parents, Mike was easy prey for a local predator, their neighbor. He was sexually abused for years, and for years he believed that the rapes he suffered were proof that he was "bad" - that there was nothing good or redeemable in him. Mike grew up an angry man, addicted to cocaine, sleeping in the streets and doing stints in jails and prisons. But he found within himself a spark, a long buried but still living source of hope and will. At age 28, with the help of the Daytop Village therapeutic community, and after several false starts, Mike broke the grip of his addiction. Freed from its clutches, he built a life. He met his wife, Cynthia, on a New York City subway and a year later they were married. As his oldest daughter reached the age at which he was abused, Mike found himself wrestling with his memories. He sought help from the Cleveland rape crisis center, overcame his fears, and began the real work of confronting the abuse he had suffered, and its legacies .. the self blame, the anger, the bone-deep belief that he did not deserve to be happy. Mike was finally able to tell someone about the abuse he had suffered. By facing his painful past, Mike was able to discover authentic joy and a purpose. Today, he is a successful businessman, devoted family man, fitness enthusiast, marathoner, and public speaker. He is passionate about sharing his story in order to empower survivors and stop the epidemic of child sexual abuse. Learn more about Mike: www.mikepistorino.com

  • 01:30

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    Tonight's special guest is E Diane Champé from Baltimore, a returning NAASCA family member, here to update us about the work she's been doing with her E Diane Champé Institute. She's known as "The Survivors Champion" and has been an active member of the recovery community for many years. Diane's work is devoted to the tens of millions of adult survivors of child abuse and neglect who get up every day and try to work and function in a world that seems to not care about us. Her program, the SERVE Zone (Safety, Education, Resources, Validation, & Empowerment), provides opportunities for survivors to learn, practice and develop relational, communication, and other life skills in a relaxing, safe environment. Diane is the author of the book "Conguering Incest: My Life as a Trauma Survivor." She writes, "As a survivor of horrendous childhood abuse and neglect, I understand the loneliness and hopelessness of living behind closed doors with a terrible secret. I have also felt the warmth, compassion and acceptance in relationships which have allowed me to feel free and hopeful." She goes on, "We will provide the validation and encouragement survivors deserve to facilitate their healing." She explains the Institute's Centers "will not provide any type of professional therapy or self-help program. Instead, they'll be places to promote community, connection, and wellness, which the experts have stated is vital to promote engagement with the world."

  • 01:31

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 6 - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, from NYC, author of the book “Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 6: "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Rivka writes, " When I first attempted this step, I had two immediate thoughts: 1) How and why would my Higher Power “remove” anything from me, and 2) What would I feel like if I were “entirely ready” to give up all my “defects”? I felt that if I would attempt this step, I would allow something extreme in my life, and this seemed intimidating. My fear was that Step Six meant I would have to open up in a way that felt unnatural to me. Frankly, I did not want to let go of what I thought would have to be too much, too fast, or parting from my vital survival skills. Taking this step did not seem at all appealing to me." ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery is grateful for the spiritual recovery she found in the 12 Steps of AA. She's been active in the 12 Step community for over 17 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 7. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Jules (and Lisa) Czudar from Long Beach, California. Jules wrote a true story, "We Have Your Daughter," about hope, faith, forgiveness, mental illness and kidnapping. Jules was born in Budapest, Hungary. He and his family escaped right after the Hungarian Revolution in 1956. He moved to Southern California in 1964, and worked in the Mental Health Industry for over 10 years. Afterwards he began his career in Business Development. During the time the story takes place he got involved in acting. "We Have Your Daughter" is the first in a series of three books called "A Father's Journey." In an epic eight-year battle the author continually sought to find his daughter. The story weaves through the issues of mental illness, the struggle between right and wrong, good and evil, light and darkness, fantasy and reality. Would he be another victim of social injustice and legal labyrinths, with no end in sight? Mental illness affects one in four people. It can be destructive to everyone around him or her, but the truly hidden victim is the affected person himself or herself. What if, due to the illness, your wife kidnapped your child, and there was no one to assist you in finding them? What if others knew where they were, but would not help you? What if you had legal rights to see your child, but those rights were ignored? What if your faith in God was severely tested? What if all of these happened at the same time? As the author continually sought to find his daughter, he was falsely accused, put in jail, prosecuted. But he would not give up, and finally prevailed.

  • 01:33

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    Tonight's special guest is JoAnn Kerschner from Baltimore, Maryland, a child abuse survivor, RN, and returning NAASCA family member who has really changed her life a great deal since we last had her as a "special guest." Formerly the Nursing Director and a Mental Health worker at her local Medical Center, JoAnn's still in the early stages of her recovery, and describes herself as a wife, mother, friend and nurse .. but never a daughter! She was sexually abused by her father. Now she's changed career paths and last year developed an impressive advocacy as a big part of her healing. JoAnn is the Executive Director of Shattered Canvas, which offers survivors classes that combine education, community experts, and a support group option. Family members, friends of survivors, or any individual desiring education can attend these classes in a safe and comfortable setting. Shattered Canvas is available for professional education or speaking engagements for businesses and community venues. Professional Mental Health experts provide resources for participants that are available in the community. Support groups are available to participants to engage in a shared vision for healing. JoAnn provides an adjunct resource for Mental Health Clinicians, Therapists, Providers, looking for education/support for clients, families and individuals. Shattered Canvas seeks invitations to schools, colleges, community events and businesses to provide local residents with education and a message of hope. JoAnn is also seeking other professionals in the community who desire the opportunity to be an integral part of Shattered Canvas by providing expertise and modalities of care in education sessions or in a support group setting.

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