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  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1284

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 4 (and we'll include a bit about TRADITION 4) - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, author of the book "Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 4: "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."Most survivors, unless they are in a crisis, do not put much thought into what happened; the people, places, things, and reactions to events that have long-shaped their life. But if you have not yet taken a look at what traumata shaped your personality, behaviors, fears, and ways of responding in life, Step Four is a good opportunity to stop and think about it. Perhaps you have reached the day when you realize that you are not living your life as you really want to. Perhaps you feel a deep inner longing for healthy, secure attachment, love and a more kind relationship with yourself. You may experience a longing for life as you were told it was supposed to be but you have no evidence that you are living such a life. ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery has been active in the 12 Step community for nearly 20 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 5 & TRADITION 5. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:32

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    Tonight's special guest is Jacque LaFountaine from Spokane, Washington, a long-time personal friend of Bill Murray and a NAASCA volunteer. Jacque's a retired RN with experience, among other things, in critical care, ER, and as a director of assisted living and an Alzheimer's unit. Abused from early childhood, her memories were repressed. She didn't remember much of her home life when she left at 18, depressed and suicidal but not understanding why. Jacque says, "Eventually I lived in Los Angeles and began to get repressed memories back and started therapy. I was glad to get the memories out but always felt like I was sharing into a vast wasteland of nothingness." Her mother had abused her with physical, emotional, psychological, and sexual trauma which started in the crib. "Therapists considered it ritual child abuse and torture." More trauma occurred in Los Angeles. "In the middle of this, I was a victim of attempted murder which just made my PTSD symptoms even worse." She relocated to Santa Barbara and later Spokane, continuing treatment, dealing with major depression, severe PTSD, and serious dissociative disorder with Dissociative Identity Disorder (multiple personalities). "In 2011, things came together for me. My PTSD symptoms were eliminated in 24 hours. I found my core personality (the one that's not an alter) and reconstructed my identity. As my identity strengthened my depression left." Jacque says, "I'm in the best place internally that I've ever been and am truly grateful." She says she's looking forward to the future, concluding, "I believe we all have to help each other which will help bring child abuse out to the general public. There is strength in numbers."

  • 01:32

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    Tonight's special guest is Linda Dueling from Omaha, Nebraska, a child abuse survivor and active NAASCA volunteer family member. Linda was sexually abused and eventually raped by her Grandpa. This went on until she was about 8 years old. Later, at 12, she would 'fall in love' with a 20 year old who introduced her to IV drugs. At 15 she ended up living on the streets with a boy and they were eventually arrested for 'breaking and entering' when they tried to find shelter. He was sent to Juvenile Hall, but Linda was released to her mother. "Mom slapped and hit me the whole walk home about 12 blocks." She ran away again and experienced a horrible gang rape by a group of 'friends'. Linda says. "I know GOD saved me that night." Linda began using drugs again and meet a boy who would become her husband. "He began hitting me within months," Linda says. "I was beaten daily." It took nearly 2 decades before she joined a church and got clean. For a while things got better. She earned a Certificate in Counseling for Addiction. She built businesses and was seen as a 'success'. "I had over come my addiction and my marriage was now 'healthy' by everyone's standards. Yet I felt dead." In 2008 she tried to take her life. "I was held at the hospital for almost a month. When I left I went into Intensive Outpatient Therapy 5 days a week, four hours a day." In 2010 she'd had enough. "I left for a business trip and never returned home." Her life has improved but she knows she still has a long way to go. She pushes on "Telling this side of my story with out protecting anyone in the process is a new journey."

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Donna Farris from Old Town, Maine, a new NAASCA family member and children's rights advocate. "I haven't had an easy life by any means," she says, "but I look at it this way. I have nothing to fear in whatever life will continue to throw at me .. because I have God on my side." She adds, "I am excited to learn more about NAASCA and become more involved!!" Donna holds a Masters Degree in Clinical Social Work. She is a former State of Maine Guardian ad Litem for almost 9 years in 4 different Counties. She has been a life-long child advocate and activist for children's rights. She fights to end child abuse in every form. She will never stop. Her own children were kidnapped through the Family Courts by their father after their father almost killed their oldest son in front of their youngest son. Their father was forced to buy their lives in our Family Court to save himself from a criminal investigation of attempted murder on a child, and life in prison. After having had her own children kidnapped in these same Courts that she used to work in, she started her business, “Hands On Parenting” to fight this corruption and re-unite children with their loving parents. Donna offered parenting education, parent-child reunification, and support to parents across Maine, including professional supervised visitation when needed. Donna will never stop in her efforts to end child abuse and corruption by government officials, fighting for ALL children caught up in corruption, Domestic Violence and child abuse.

  • 01:30

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    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist will lead the discussion. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Angela Wright-Lacey, a California based Doctoral Student at Argosy University who's doing a research study on "Forgiveness: Pastoral Counseling, Women, Christian, and Jewish faith Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse." The study examines the correlation between pastoral counseling and forgiveness among Christian and Jewish faith women survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA) who are not undergoing any counseling or abuse at the time of the study. The surveys are be designed to measure volunteers responses to open-ended questions and level of forgiveness. An aspiring counselor, life coach and motivational speaker, Angela Wright provides inspiration to both men and women everywhere she goes, giving life strategies that can help individuals reach their goals and objectives. She says, "Gowing up in a faith-based home where believing in God (faith) and using the word of God as a direction in our lives has helped structure my belief and value system. I love and have a passion for hurting individuals especially people that were touched as a child." Angela wasn't sexually abused herself, but has family and friends that were. "I noticed that even in the church children were sexually abused. My experience in the church has been as a young people's leader and teacher. It is during those times I noticed young people struggling needing help." Angela became a mentor for at-risk teens, and later started a women's group where, she learned, many individuals had been abused. She's currently completing a graduate degree in Pastoral Community Counseling. "My dissertation topic addresses the issue of child sexual abuse. I am taking a closer look at my purpose which is to empower and help individuals transcend their pain into fulfilling their purpose."

  • 01:30

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    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist will lead the discussion. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:29

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    Tonight's special guest is Amy Oestreicher from Westport, Connecticut, a survivor of sexual abuse as a teen, domestic violence and many physical challenges. Amy wears a lot of hats .. as a PTSD peer to peer specialist, artist, author, writer for The Huffington Post, award-winning health advocate, actress and playwright. She eagerly shares the lessons learned from trauma through her writing, mixed media art, performance and inspirational speaking. She's currently performing her one-woman autobiographical musical "Gutless & Grateful". Amy explains, "I had a voice teacher when I was 15 who I looked up to immensely." But, she says, "I had no idea he was grooming me for two years." When she was 17, he made his first move. "I went completely numb and left my body. I froze, stopped eating, feeling and being me. I was too in shock to even understand what was going on. The abuse went on for seven months, week after week because I was too afraid to tell anyone." She goes on, "The more he molested me, the less of me I felt I knew." The abuse stopped almost as suddenly as it had begun, when at 18 her stomach literally exploded due to an unforeseen blood clot. She fell into a coma only a week after her breaking silence about her abuse." When I awoke 6 months later, I was very confused, to say the least!" She determined to make something of this experience. "I devised a program that combines Broadway theatre with sexual assault awareness and mental health advocacy, in order to empower survivors of assault and to create a more compassionate, open community. I deliver this keynote to colleges and universities, to promote mental health, provide hope, help, and save lives."

  • 01:30

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "For Our Kids" - Deborah Maddison and Eugenea Couture, Canadian activists from British Columbia, will join Bill Murray to lead this evening's discussion about the Rights of Children and Families in North America. ~~ TONIGHT'S TOPIC: "Searching & Reunion" -- This show is about the journey of searching for family whether you were adopted, raised in foster care or you are the parent of a child that was adopted or was taken by the ministry. For many, the loss of biological connection leaves them to feel a void in their identity and belonging. When children are taken from their homes they lose more than just their family of origin, they lose a history and the bonds of their biological birth. Parents that give up or lose their rights thru an adoption are often left to feel a loss and heartache for the child they don't know. They are often overwhelmed with a deep scarring because their child is not in contact and this creates a "What happened to my baby?" loss. Reunions can be beautiful but this can also be a painful reality to answers that are unprepared when we do not have concrete facts or the knowledge on why these decisions were made. Please join our discussion on the "For Our Kids" talk show as we discuss the core of searching and the sensitive embarkment of a family reunion with our incredible panel of guests.~~ Every two weeks a new THEME will be presented in this series, with frequent special guests speaking from their own experience. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/ForOurKids or write to: naasca.forourkids@gmail.com

  • 01:33

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    Tonight's special guest is Linda Deir from Sedona, Arizona, a survivor, activist and author who grew up unwanted, unloved, and horribly abused from birth by a parent who vowed to "beat the spirit" out of her. After 16 years of physical, psychological, and emotional abuse, a pregnant Linda escaped the family never to return. It was the happiest day of her life, the day she got out alive. Her latest book "Guided" tells her story. Linda understood she was in trouble from the very beginning and took matters into her own hands at 20 months old. She ran away from home. Two policemen found her and took her home, but her mother beat her unconscious as soon as they left. Waking up on the floor later on Linda looked around the room and saw that she wasn't alone .. she was surrounded by 'angelic spirits,' protectors and teachers who saved her life, became her best friends, and guided her through unimaginable life challenges. Repeatedly told her that she would never amount to anything, by age 19 the little girl who played with the building blocks everyday in kindergarten became a self-taught business phenomenon in a man's world, the construction industry. She became an architect, home designer, and general contractor. Linda says she owes everything to being raised by her 'Spirit Guides' from an early age. They were her best friends and life coaches in everything she did. Despite the abuse she endured, they never let her become a victim. She now spends her time writing and coaching people to make the all-important spiritual connection to their angels and spirit guides so they can heal the hurt, pain and shame and live the life they intended before they got here.

  • 01:33

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    Tonight's special guest is Mary Beth Holzwarth from Gettysburg, South Dakota, an activist who was stunned to learn her two children were being abused by an uncle at ages 8 and 5. "I started researching and was blown away by how many children are sexually abused and how few ever receive that justice," she says. "I have to give the credit to my sons, however; it is their courage and their desire to not have another child experience this that keeps me going." Mary Beth and her family live in a remote area where counselors and other experts are few and far between. "Because of this challenge, I have worked hard to learn as much as possible about what my kids feel, how best to help them, best counseling methods, coping methods, and keep a strong relationship with my sons." She goes on, "Three years ago, through several connections, I joined force with several senators and professionals and survivors and we drafted Jolene's Law. Our law was passed unanimously and signed into effect, establishing a task force to study how our state (South Dakota) is handling CSA." But she was hardly done, as similar legislation was brought to other states (California is set to bring it forward this next session). "In addition to that, I organize local public awareness events and team up with law enforcement and domestic violence shelters to hold trainings." Mary Beth concludes, "I want to offer hope for others that there are more good days than bad days now, but as we all know, this will continue to affect them the rest of their lives."