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It is not uncommon for adult children of alcoholics to attract energy beings who are very similar to their parents. It is quite common in fact for adult children to attract alcoholics as partners and to have children with drug and alcoholc issues. I hear some wondering, "But how could this be? I did not drink, and I hated my father who was an alcoholic. How could I have attracted a spouse who drinks and have children who drink and do drugs?" The reality Dear One, is that we attract what we are on a vibrational level, and your childhood experiences have created certain emotional set points. These set points are no different than a radio station. So like moths to a flame, children who have been abused by alcoholics are tuned up for alcoholics. Why? Because ACoA's understand the dysfunctional love language of an alcoholic, and or narcissistic, denial based being. While a non-codependent being would avoid alcoholics whose actions might not match what is comign out of his/her mouth, and ACoA sees these beings as needing sympathy, help, or love. In addition, because their idea of love is evasive, complicated and confusing, ACoA's match up their energies perfectly with beings who are more than willing to be evasice, complicated and confusing. Taking a Toxic Vibrational Fast is a Fast Pass Way to Facilitate Emotional Healing.
SOMETIMES YOU DO GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION.
In which the S.O.S meeting Jeff and Chris set out to attend is not the S.O.S. meeting they find. Which then leads Jeff to facilitate Chris’ second attempt at attending an A.A. meeting.
Will he go in?
Will he stay?
Do they cast him out as an imposter?
Do they welcome him as a brother?
Is there coffee?
Find out in this week’s episode…
We also talk through Step 11.
Secular Organizations for Sobriety (S.O.S)
Sisters of Sobriety (S.o.S) / How some women-only Alcoholics Anonymous meetings identify themselves.
Headspace / Meditation app
Andrew Kukes Foundation for Social Anxiety / We didn’t actually mention this organization but it has a lot of good info
Southington, Connecticut. A meeting / Charles Fenno Jacobs / 1942 / public domain via Library of Congress
Did you grow up in a home with a problem drinker? If you did, you may have been impacted more than you know. Adult Children of Alcoholics share several common characteristics. They tend to feel different or isolated and uneasy with other people. They are intimidated by authority figures or people who are angry. They seek approval from others and lose themselves in the process. They are people-pleasers.
They feel responsible for other people and put their needs before their own. They are terrified of abandonment, and will do almost anything to maintain a relationship even (or especially) if it is unhealthy. They tend to hide their feelings both as children and as adults. They often confuse love with pity and tend to love people they can rescue. They thrive on drama rather than healthy relationships because that is what they grew up with. They often become alcoholics, marry alcoholics or both. The list goes on.
On this episode of The Bubble Hour our guests will share their experience both with growing up in an alcoholic home and in a home with someone in recovery.
Dr. Cathy Reimers, Ph.D., psychologist in New Jersey, and co-host Jennifer Russello, parent in New Jersey, continue the discussion on alcoholism in the American family and the impact that alcoholic parents have on children in their youth and into adulthood. Last week we discussed the hidden secret of alcoholism amongst parents, especially mothers and the growing numbers of women in general that are suffering and hiding their alcoholism. Alcoholism is one of the most contributing factors to dysfunction in a family. Sadly, this cycle often continues as studies show that children of alcoholics often suffer from some form of addiction and most commonly become addicted to alcohol or drugs. We will discuss the different roles that children take in their alcoholic families and what can be done to help these kids now and into their adulthood. The "perfect family storm" of alcoholism creates turmoil for everyone in its path and no one in the family escapes its effects. There is no place for the children to hide.
Tina S is the adult child of alcoholics. She talks frankly about this experience and how she managed to survive a troubled childhood. More challenges took place when she was an adult. She developed a bipolar disorder with devastating depressions and frightening episodes of mania. She provides hope to those who are still struggling.
Dr. Cathy Reimers, Ph.D., psychologist in New Jersey, and co-host Jennifer Russello, parent in New Jersey, continue the discussion on alcoholism in the American family and the impact that alcoholic parents have on their children even into adulthood years. In our last show, we discussed alcoholism as one of the most contributing factors to dysfunction in a family, particularly, the different roles that children take on in their family. This week we will examine how adult children of alcoholics navigate through life, in their own relationships and raising their children. The “perfect family storm of alcoholism” is a vicious cycle that begins with one single sip for the alcoholic family member and only ends in “recovery” or continued treatment; however, the pain that the family endures goes deeper than “rock bottom” and may never end.
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Shocking new information ...How deep is this rabbit hole? This last spring I met with a pilot who told me his story. When we drove away I felt how depressed and sad he was that he may never fly again. Why? Beacuse he has a problem with alcohol? No. Because AA members have infiltrated every nook and cranny of our culture and world only to tell them ...do it our way..reliious AA or the highway. To tell even Nurses they have to go to AA for 5 years ...WOW...WOW.... I am outraged....How can the FAA force a Pilot to attend an AA rehab ($40,000) and see an AA psychiatrist ( for $2,500.) to regain their flying abilities? Money and AA dont mix? Bullshit!
If you or someone you know has been coereced and forced to AA dogma, has lost your job, lost wages etc we are rallying to discuss a civil class action lawsuit. Please listen and share everywhere.
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A 1 hour show exploring how and why AA "think" gets in ones head, how to undo it and how long will that take? Each person will be different. There is no one size fits all. Join host Monica Richardson to tear up the once adored fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous as we explore tools for getting free from 1935 dangerous self doubt promblamatic thinking and negative self talk taught by poorly written Big Book Speak zombies!
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Many Adult Children of Alcoholics feel stuck, lost, afraid, resentful and frustrated by their circumstances. Because they were raised by inebriated, denial based caretakers--they were denied a healthy mirroring of Self-Love, Self-Appreciation, and Unconditional Love for Self.When your caretakers deny you the nurturing you deserve, you go through life feeling as if you are ill--wrong--broken--and stained. The wounds these feelings create are deep, and shatter a child's much needed sense of safety. The ability to trust Self is lost, as the child presumes the angst within--is something he/she deserves.
Future adult relationships all stem from the programmed dysfunctional perceptions of ones childhood. ACoA's often times attract into their experience partners who are very much like one of their caretakers. Because all beings attract what they know--even if what they know is dysfunctional--until a being becomes truly AWARE of that which is unconsciously driving all of their conscious decisions as adults--life cannot unfold happily.
Here we explore what it means to make that which is unconscious conscious--so to heighten our understanding and thus awareness of Self.
As awarness of self is expanded--so to is the love of self--for as one will ultimately learn here--we ACoA's were never not enough,we are not our pasts, nor our dysfuntional thoughts.
Lisa A. Romano
We all need somebody to lean on every now and then - especially when we have been affected by a friend or family member struggling with addiction.
This new GUC series features- Conversations With Family And Friends Of Addicts - which provides a safe platform for us to share our personal addiction experiences.
It is through these conversations that I hope you will gain some powerful, and hopeful insights that will assist you in dealing with a loved one's addiction.
Remember that no matter what happens you are not alone.
In this episode - My Parents Are Alcoholics; Not Me - we explore the fear of becoming an alcoholic.
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One pilot tells his horor story of how the FAA and AA are in bed with each other. Join Monica Richardson for a 1 hour show with a pilot who will tell what happened to him. Other pilots may be calling in as well. Did you know if you are a pilot and you have issues with alcohol you are forced to go to an AA rehab and see an AA pyshciatrist charging you $1,500.- $2,500. for an hour session? Did you know that you may be required to sign a 3 page contract if you are a pilot that treats AA, its meetings, its sponosrs and its steps like a treament program , wrapped into a police watch dog type system. Its outrageous. Join us live in the chat room.
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I was adopted and raised by parents who were very successful but they also loved their alcohol! Many adult children of alcoholics share characteristics as a result of these alcoholic parents or dysfunctional household. For example, many feel isolated and uneasy with others outside the family unit. They resume a role as "people pleasure" and lose their identity. Many became alcholics or married one... or both! Many also develop compulsions and become workaholics (like me) as a way to fulfill a need for abandonment.
Together we find ourselves living a life of a victim with an over-developed need for responsibility to distract us from ourselves. We felt guilty standing up for ourselves and we react instead of being assertive and taking control of our own lives. We form dependent personalities, feel threats of abandonment often for no reasons at all, and are willing to do almost anything to be loved. We additionally choose insecure relationships because they match the crappy relationship with had as a child.
In essence we become co-alcoholics and acquire the same characteristics of our alcoholic parents even if we have never taken a drink. We learn to keep our feelings buried as children and adults. We confuse love with sex, we find project men or women, become self-defeating, become addicted to various things (not only alcohol), and seem to attract more and more dysfunction in our lives.
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