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In this episode we will be discussing one of the most critical invisible wounds adult children of alcoholics experience.
The need to feel 'seen' on a psychological, emotional and spiritual level is crucial to a child's ability to define for themselves who they are and their unique experiences. Without sufficient energy bonding with mother and or father, children spend their lives seeking to gain this much needed connection in others. Sadly children from dysfunctional homes most often do not attract healthy partners, friends, coworkers and etc. Because this is a cause and effect universe, and becasue one of the first agenda's of a soul is to feel 'seen' by mother and father, wounded adult children unconsciously on an energetic level attract similar energies to their parents, in search of sealing that bond. Understanding how and why we adult children of alcoholics and narcissists, are unknowingly leaking energetically, as well as attracting abusers, helps us gain clarity and the tools we need to make life long changes that impact our lives in positive ways.
It is not uncommon for adult children of alcoholics to attract energy beings who are very similar to their parents. It is quite common in fact for adult children to attract alcoholics as partners and to have children with drug and alcoholc issues. I hear some wondering, "But how could this be? I did not drink, and I hated my father who was an alcoholic. How could I have attracted a spouse who drinks and have children who drink and do drugs?" The reality Dear One, is that we attract what we are on a vibrational level, and your childhood experiences have created certain emotional set points. These set points are no different than a radio station. So like moths to a flame, children who have been abused by alcoholics are tuned up for alcoholics. Why? Because ACoA's understand the dysfunctional love language of an alcoholic, and or narcissistic, denial based being. While a non-codependent being would avoid alcoholics whose actions might not match what is comign out of his/her mouth, and ACoA sees these beings as needing sympathy, help, or love. In addition, because their idea of love is evasive, complicated and confusing, ACoA's match up their energies perfectly with beings who are more than willing to be evasice, complicated and confusing. Taking a Toxic Vibrational Fast is a Fast Pass Way to Facilitate Emotional Healing.
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In this episode Lisa A. Romano, Certified ACoA Life Coach, Mentor and Author helps we wounded Adult Children from dysfunctional homes understand how we can use pain to help us transcend our wounds and how by 'reframing' how we experience our pain can also speed along our total recovery.
If you have been lost, hang in there as Lisa explains the purpose of pain and how we can learn to appreciate duality in our lives.
As Lisa explains, there can be no understanding of light without some understanding of darkness. There can be no integration without understanding ideas of separation. There can be no experience of contentment without some experience of discontentment. It is our hope that by listening to this recording as well as many of Lisa's others, that your ideas about self, your past, healing, and about recovery will help you reframe your perceptions about pain for the purpose of healing completely.
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Have you ever been ripped off by an AA member? Was it alot of money? Was it for hundreds, thousands or millions. When you asked for your money back were told to
" go write about it" . "pray about it"
One oldtimer in a men's stagg in Hollywood, has been doing this and getting away with it for years. We suggest you go to the police and prosecute them. SO why don't you? Listen for a 30 minute show on Financial predatory criminal behavior in AA. We will take calls. PLease report all crimes to the police.
SOMETIMES YOU DO GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION.
In which the S.O.S meeting Jeff and Chris set out to attend is not the S.O.S. meeting they find. Which then leads Jeff to facilitate Chris’ second attempt at attending an A.A. meeting.
Will he go in?
Will he stay?
Do they cast him out as an imposter?
Do they welcome him as a brother?
Is there coffee?
Find out in this week’s episode…
We also talk through Step 11.
Secular Organizations for Sobriety (S.O.S)
Sisters of Sobriety (S.o.S) / How some women-only Alcoholics Anonymous meetings identify themselves.
Headspace / Meditation app
Andrew Kukes Foundation for Social Anxiety / We didn’t actually mention this organization but it has a lot of good info
Southington, Connecticut. A meeting / Charles Fenno Jacobs / 1942 / public domain via Library of Congress
Did you grow up in a home with a problem drinker? If you did, you may have been impacted more than you know. Adult Children of Alcoholics share several common characteristics. They tend to feel different or isolated and uneasy with other people. They are intimidated by authority figures or people who are angry. They seek approval from others and lose themselves in the process. They are people-pleasers.
They feel responsible for other people and put their needs before their own. They are terrified of abandonment, and will do almost anything to maintain a relationship even (or especially) if it is unhealthy. They tend to hide their feelings both as children and as adults. They often confuse love with pity and tend to love people they can rescue. They thrive on drama rather than healthy relationships because that is what they grew up with. They often become alcoholics, marry alcoholics or both. The list goes on.
On this episode of The Bubble Hour our guests will share their experience both with growing up in an alcoholic home and in a home with someone in recovery.
Dr. Cathy Reimers, Ph.D., psychologist in New Jersey, and co-host Jennifer Russello, parent in New Jersey, continue the discussion on alcoholism in the American family and the impact that alcoholic parents have on children in their youth and into adulthood. Last week we discussed the hidden secret of alcoholism amongst parents, especially mothers and the growing numbers of women in general that are suffering and hiding their alcoholism. Alcoholism is one of the most contributing factors to dysfunction in a family. Sadly, this cycle often continues as studies show that children of alcoholics often suffer from some form of addiction and most commonly become addicted to alcohol or drugs. We will discuss the different roles that children take in their alcoholic families and what can be done to help these kids now and into their adulthood. The "perfect family storm" of alcoholism creates turmoil for everyone in its path and no one in the family escapes its effects. There is no place for the children to hide.
Tina S is the adult child of alcoholics. She talks frankly about this experience and how she managed to survive a troubled childhood. More challenges took place when she was an adult. She developed a bipolar disorder with devastating depressions and frightening episodes of mania. She provides hope to those who are still struggling.
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DId you feel like you were in a cult when you left? Why would we say that? Did you have to make all new friends? Were you ostricized when you left? Is AA religious? Yes. Why would our courts send you there then? Is AA a government agency? NO. Is AA run by professionals? No. Does AA have safety policies in place? NO. IN fact, they voted no to making Safety polices when insider Paul C wrote his 7 page letter to the AA General Service Board.
Join us for a 1 hour show where bloggers can call in and tell their stories with host Monica Richardson.
Dr. Cathy Reimers, Ph.D., psychologist in New Jersey, and co-host Jennifer Russello, parent in New Jersey, continue the discussion on alcoholism in the American family and the impact that alcoholic parents have on their children even into adulthood years. In our last show, we discussed alcoholism as one of the most contributing factors to dysfunction in a family, particularly, the different roles that children take on in their family. This week we will examine how adult children of alcoholics navigate through life, in their own relationships and raising their children. The “perfect family storm of alcoholism” is a vicious cycle that begins with one single sip for the alcoholic family member and only ends in “recovery” or continued treatment; however, the pain that the family endures goes deeper than “rock bottom” and may never end.
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Many Adult Children of Alcoholics feel stuck, lost, afraid, resentful and frustrated by their circumstances. Because they were raised by inebriated, denial based caretakers--they were denied a healthy mirroring of Self-Love, Self-Appreciation, and Unconditional Love for Self.When your caretakers deny you the nurturing you deserve, you go through life feeling as if you are ill--wrong--broken--and stained. The wounds these feelings create are deep, and shatter a child's much needed sense of safety. The ability to trust Self is lost, as the child presumes the angst within--is something he/she deserves.
Future adult relationships all stem from the programmed dysfunctional perceptions of ones childhood. ACoA's often times attract into their experience partners who are very much like one of their caretakers. Because all beings attract what they know--even if what they know is dysfunctional--until a being becomes truly AWARE of that which is unconsciously driving all of their conscious decisions as adults--life cannot unfold happily.
Here we explore what it means to make that which is unconscious conscious--so to heighten our understanding and thus awareness of Self.
As awarness of self is expanded--so to is the love of self--for as one will ultimately learn here--we ACoA's were never not enough,we are not our pasts, nor our dysfuntional thoughts.
Lisa A. Romano
We all need somebody to lean on every now and then - especially when we have been affected by a friend or family member struggling with addiction.
This new GUC series features- Conversations With Family And Friends Of Addicts - which provides a safe platform for us to share our personal addiction experiences.
It is through these conversations that I hope you will gain some powerful, and hopeful insights that will assist you in dealing with a loved one's addiction.
Remember that no matter what happens you are not alone.
In this episode - My Parents Are Alcoholics; Not Me - we explore the fear of becoming an alcoholic.
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