Has the black woman made it harder than necessary for the black man?

i posted a poem on my FB page entitled An Apology. To a lot of men seemed to express words and sentiments that had been unspoken.  To some men and women it brought light to how angry we have been at one another and for a few women it made then angry. Has the. Lack woman been a. It den more than a blessing to the black man?  We are diving deep into this tonight!!  You do not want to miss it!!