I don't understand this!

Have you ever said, " why me Lord?"  When I do this I can almost hear God's voice saying," why not you, you said you would be a living sacrifice unto me( Roman ch 12, verse 1.

I have had  a crazy couple of months, we all have our health so that's good; but I wonder after being a Christian for twenty years, how does a person cope when something bad happens, lose a job, lose your house, lose a husband, or a wife.

It's easy to preach the fun messages, but how to you get across I understand how you feel when you have no idea how that person feels?