Is Your Pastor Dr. Jekyel and Mr Hyde?

Dear MS CJ

I am married to a pastor we have been married for 15 years.  My husband is the sweetest man I know to his congregation but the meanest man at home.  People think my husband is a true man of God, but really he is verbally abusive to me and the children.  I think he also has cheated on me due to some phone calls I have gotten from other women.  I want to leave but who would believe me about this man.  If you talked to him you would think he is a saint.  He has everyone fooled.  I love my church and the people but I know if I leave this man everyone would believe that I am the bad person in the marriage.  What should I do?