#50: THE PROBLEM WITH PERFECTIONISM

The problem with perfectionism is that the longer that you dwell in your pursuit of perfectionism, the more insidiously  insecurities will birth within you and hinder you from moving forward towards the life that you’re meant to live.

THE PROBLEM WITH PERFECTIONISM
EPISODE #50

 
SHOW NOTES:
(1). It Defeats Your Initiative

-If you wait for perfect conditions you will never get anything done

-We often don’t open or allow ourselves to be loved or consider ourselves loveable until we reach a certain level of perfection, which ultimately never happens

-Not only does it defeat initiative, it makes completion a moving finish line.

The longer that you dwell in your pursuit of perfectionism, the more insecurities will birth within you and hinder you from moving forward towards the life that you’re meant to live.

(2). It Damages Your Relationships

-When we are harsh on ourselves, we inevitably are harsh on others

-The way we treat ourselves is noticed by others, and it signals them to be on guard

-Perfectionism makes us self-focused, and selfish; it is difficult to really love others, and I mean really love them properly if we are so self-consumed in our own crap.

(3). It Destroys Your Happiness.

-You nag yourself constantly, which is a bummer

-Additionally to that, people don’t like nags, so you end up making it difficult to like yourself, and if you don’t like yourself, how can you ever expect to be happy? How can you ever expect to see yourself for all of the wonderful gifts that you do have?

-Motiving yourself by reminding yourself about what is WRONG with you will not work. That is shame motivation.

-Brene Brown, author of I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame (Buy your own copy by clicking here: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Thin