Critiquing Without Criticizing-A Love Skill

If you hear more critical than critiquing talk, it may be time to change some things.  Being demeaning with putdowns, complaints, fault-finding, derogatory remarks, etc. is increasingly taken to mean a person is criticizing.  This is the number two reason for couple’s breakups (the number one reason is insufficiently loving) according to some research.  Criticism helps love relationships break apart. Critiquing, as a rule, helps love relationships address issues in a balanced, positive way.

It is a mistake trying to make improvements in a relationship by talking in the negative i.e. griping, complaining, blaming, criticizing, etc..  Relationship related complaints are often founded in love hunger and an appropriate desire to be better treated, or are founded in some hurtful experience to which well expressed love will be the cure.