Colorless Words: The art of the apology and the communication breakdown

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Article:

Last Summer Pharrell Williams released the song Happy, which was on his highly anticipated 2013 album Girl but also featured on the Despicable Me 2 Soundtrack. This song defined a summer and bought the concept of intentional happiness to lives of many. On the other hand this song played so often that hearing it made some people want to do anything but be happy. Repetition can remove the passion from a song and too much repetition removes the color from the lyrics, ultimately becoming a series of colorless words. It can become this way with apologies as well. Hearing I am sorry over and over again hijacks our trust instincts, wears on your ability to authentically forgive and can force us to wonder if the apology is meaningful or a just another means to an end.

1) Say “I need to apologize”

It is important to actually apologize. Some people will try to avoid actually saying I’m sorry due to their egos. Apologizing is about suspending your ego.

2) “I am apologizing for …”

Being able to acknowledge verbally and describe your offense is true accountability. Practice separately step 1 and step 2 some people will have the tendency to mush these together but they should be practiced as two separate steps.

3) “Will you forgive me?”

It is critical that you ask to be forgiven this also reinforces that you are willing to be held accountable and it highlights that this about a relationship and not just one-person feelings.

4) “what can I do to atone for my mistake.”

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