The Blended / Unblended Family

Welcome to blended family life.

Many times we go into the next marriage thinking it would be much like the first marriage, except, you really are in love with this new person and you get along with them perfectly. So, you jump in feet first not realizing you are going to hit some of the same “walls” you hit in the first marriage.

Then, you realize there are some invisible boundaries already in place … “this is the way we do holidays;” “these are my kids, and only I discipline them;” etc. Well, you have just entered the blended family twilight zone and you are going to need a bit of help.

There are some basic rules about joining together and creating the “His, Hers and Ours” home. I’d like to share a few of these rules from the “road rash” I have received along my blended family journey. Hopefully it will save you from some painful skid marks along the way!