how does one bond to his or her human-ness?

life is a process that involves bonding to our humanity through external catalysts like mom and dad and experiences. There is also the soul's blueprint to contend with humanly. Bonding starts with the incarnation of the soul after birth of the body that it mates to as its conscious awarenss. How does one bond to his or her human-ness? It begins with being held by parents and family members. From this one's life grows through nurturing, encouragement, development, discipline, adept-ship and finally self- mastery. Welcome to the slapology of dougie fu as my point of view.