Fear : the junkyard dog that keeps you out of happiness

I want to share a new lesson for me, to feel what it is like to put myself first. This doesn't mean I go around and help others and leave myself bare. It means that when I make a big decision I think of everyone in my life that will need to face changes due to my decision for change. We are all linked. So being the caregiver personality I am. It goes like so. Person one will need to xy and z because of my decision. Person two will need to change the way she does a thing because of my decision. Person three and so on. Did I look at what I wanted to do? Did I create the desire about my having happiness? No. I put others first!