Are Women Afraid to Commit in Relationships?

We always hear how dedicated women are.  Yet, women file about 80% of divorces.  If that is a sign of commitment, I have been clueless about commitment my entire life.  To my understanding, marriage vows are for richer and poorer and sickness and health.  I guess since the vows say nothing about sex and irreconcilable differences most divorces can be justified, at least in a woman’s mind. 

For centuries, we have been taught that women give their all.  They are committed to their families.  However, if you strip all the layers off, you may find these have all been lies.

If you doubt me, engage a woman in an extremely intimate conversation about herself.  Or have an intimate and adult conversation about sex.  In those kinds of conversations, she has to reveal herself, unless she is a great actress – liar. 

When you have those kinds of conversations, you find out how interested she is in you.  You also find out how really brave she is.  Many women have fears they never discuss with men.  They claim they never reveal everything to a man to keep little mystery.  Mystery can also be code word for deceit. 

What are women really afraid of?  If you are willing to share your body with a man, why not share all of your thoughts?  Furthermore, how can a woman ever expect a man to commit to her if she is withholding the essence of the relationship – intimacy and vulnerability? 

Let’s open the floodgates to see if women are brave enough to engage in real relationship conversations.  Or will we find out that women are so afraid of being hurt that they hide themselves from a man.  By hiding, in the end, the man walks and she gets the very thing she feared – abandonment.