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There are very distinct, yet overlapping, phases of grief. We go through the stages in various orders and in varying degrees on the road to recovering from any loss. If we lose a jacket at the ballpark, we may go through all the stages in a few minutes. If the jacket was one that was given to us by our brother on our birthday, it may take much more time.
If the animal was a family pet and stayed outside, it may not hit us as hard as if he were our own companion and greeted us each night when we came in the door. If your pet was a companion and best friend, the mourning will be a deep one.
1. Shock/Denial/Numbness. We can not believe this has happened to us. Our body and emotions numb themselves against the pain. The mind denies the loss. Often we will say things like "This can't be true." One of the valid reasos for memorials and funerals is to acknowledge that death did take place.
2. Fear/AngerDepression. After the numbness wears off and we are once again able to feel, then all of our repressed feelings come roaring back. Sometimes these feeling ared not rational at first and can seedk someone to blame, either an outsider or ourselves. "I can't share how sad I am about my dog, because my co-workers will think I am crazy." "But, on the other hand, I inquire about their child's cold and buy their stupid Girl Scout cookies to support them. It isn't fair!" "Oh God, please don't let me start crying at work again. I heard someone call me a drama queen and say; It's only a dog, not a child."
3. Understanding/Acceptance/Moving on.
4. New Hurts May Trigger Old Wounds.
As pet owners we are often concerned about what and how we can train our pets. But the truth is that pets often teach us. As a parent educator (and pet grief coach) I use animals to teach families how to relate to one another in daily life.
Today's show will be about some of the life skills we can learn from animals. Here are just some we will discuss;
To have unconditional love for others.
To be non-judgemental about race, gender, religion or nationality
To protect our loved ones
To be aware of other's feelings and show empathy and comfort
To show loyalty for family
To trust your instincts
To live in the moment--don't hold grudges
To keep our needs simple
To hide a little something away for a rainy day
To include excercise and naps in everyday.
You are invited to call in during the show or to leave comments that may be used in an up-coming book on Animal-Human Connection. Thanks for being part of our community of kind, thoughtful people who want respect for all.
Judy Helm Wright, Pet Grief Coach and author of "I Lost My Best Friend Today--Dealing With The Loss of a Beloved Pet."
PS: If you have a pet story to share please send it to email@example.com and be sure to put PET STORY in the subject line. You may be featured in an upcoming book.
6 Dog Personalities & Temperaments (EXPERT)
It is helpful to know what kind of personality your new dog will have; so that you can more easily adapt him/her to your family.There are six basic types of dog personalities. In addition to personalities all animals have temperament. Temperament is the breed of animal. Personality is all the things inside her head that determine behavior.
A large part is genetic and the rest is molded during the first weeks of his/her life with you, the pet parent.
6 types of dog personalities
A Responsive dog
A Nervous dog
A Shy dog
The Sedate dog
The Aggressive dog
The Stubborn dog
Of course a dog’s environment also affects behavior. Which of these basic personality types best suit you and your family depends largely on your own personality and what you are looking for in a family pet.
Which of these basic personality types best suit you and your family depends largely on your own personality and what you are looking for in a family pet.
Choose carefully for this pet dog will most certainly become a valued and loved part of your family for many years to come.
Be sure to come to www.deathofmypet.com to find resources, classes and consults with Judy Helm Wright, “Pet Grief Coach”
Below are some of the most frequent questions we get at www.deathofmypet.com We will go over the answers to these questions about pet loss and how it affects those of us who are are suffering.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT PET LOSS
& THE GRIEF OF LOSING A BEST FRIEND.
How is it possible that I am sadder with the loss of my dog than with the loss of close family members?
For many people the love and companionship of a pet may be the only or certainly the strongest bond of unconditional love they have experienced. It is also possible, like many of my clients, which you have been strong and practical while caring for ailing parents or friends. But suddenly, your best friend and closest companion is dying and it is the last straw on a pile of buried emotions. It may be that your pet was your “safe place to go and soft spot to land.”
2. I feel like I am going crazy. Am I ever going to feel normal again?
Yes, you will feel emotionally better but different than before. You will eventually remember and rejoice in the many happy times you had with your pet. You will be able to reflect on the many life lessons you shared.
3. How long will I grieve my pet?
All of our emotions are individual. When we love deeply, we grieve deeply. Grief coaches often say that it takes about a year before your loss is the first thing you think of in the morning and the last thing you think about at night.
More questions answered on call. Join us
Today we will be discussing the different catagories of animals that provide assistance to people.
Emotional Support animals
Animal assisted therapy has been shown to significantly reduce pain, anxiety, depression and fatigue in people with a range of health problems.
Be sure to call in to speak with Judy Helm Wright-"Pet Grief Coach" and her expert guests on the show. You will be glad you did.
Claim your fun new book "Pet Jokes, Riddles and One-liners" by signing up for our community of kind thoughtful people who have respect for all. Your copy is waiting at www.deathomypet.com
Gila Kurtz? Co-founder/Co-owner of Dog is Good? Main phone: ?562-735-0219? Website: ?www.dogisgood.com? Lifestyle brand for dog lovers focused on celebrating the dog human connection through a broad array of products, books, and experiences...all inspired by Dog?
Gila grew up in Northern Virginia and attended Virginia Tech University where she graduated with a degree in Secondary Education in 1987. Shortly thereafter, she attended a bid-for-bachelor fundraiser auction where, with her VISA card, she purchased her future husband. His naval career was not particularly compatible with her teaching career, and the latter effectively ended when they married and proceeded to move about every 2 or 3 years. Gila is a successful serial entrepreneur who found her deepest passion in working with dogs and their people. In addition to building a successful dog training business wherever the Navy took her, she co-founded the award winning, nationally recognized lifestyle brand for dog lovers, Dog is Good, in 2007.
Gila is the recipient of several business awards including recognition as one of the top 25 women of Influence in the Pet Industry (2015) by Pet Age Magazine. Gila speaks professionally on "Life lessons inspired by dog."
About Pet Therapy
A hand reaches out, a wagging tail approaches, and an elderly face breaks into a smile. It's a scene that's increasingly common in the Helena Valley, thanks to volunteers from the Helena Chapter of Intermountain Therapy Animals. Activity directors and health care professionals report that visiting pets reach nursing home residents, hospital patients, retirement home residents and adult day care participants in ways that other therapeutic activities can't.
The contact may be brief, but it brightens the entire day or week, especially for those who have had pets in the past. In some cases, an animal's visit is transforming. Shy, withdrawn, or depressed people find themselves in animated conversation, angry people relax, and those with memory lapses share detailed recollections of pets they lived with years before. Visiting pets have reached autistic children, stroke victims, Alzheimer's patients, and other "unreachables." Even when nothing dramatic happens, pet visits are important changes of pace for facility residents, bringing excitement, affection, comfort, physical contact and joy.
In addition, to providing companionship (called Animal Assisted Activity), visiting pets sometimes participate in a facility's therapy program. In Animal Assisted Therapy, a dog might stand while a patient brushes him order to exercise specific arm muscles, or a cat might visit a depressed patient to encourage conversation, or someone in speech therapy might give commands to a dog that does tricks or retrieves objects. Anyone who loves animals is likely to work harder and feel more motivated when one is part of the therapy team.
We never forget our beloved pets, no matter how long it has been since they departed.
It is painful when our pets are no longer with us and we are left behind to continue our life without their unconditional love and physical presence. We can discover a void in our lives, which can be difficult to understand, much less accept. Yet it is necessary we reach out and find healing for ourselves and our family – both human and animal.
Tune in for our monthly no-cost Talk2theAnimals Pet Grief TeleConference, held the first Wednesday of each month at noon Eastern/11AM Central/10AM Mountain/9AM Pacific. Each month in this hourly TeleConference, we’ll talk about different aspects of pet grief and how it is different from grieving a beloved human. You’ll hear suggestions and resources to help you cope with your pet grief. Click here to register for the January TeleConference.
By the way, every Thursday at 8PM Eastern/5PM Pacific join our #PetGrief chat on Twitter. Be sure to use the hashtag #PetGrief so I’ll see your tweets. To find out more about our offerings, sign up for our newsletter, and watch for the ribbon cutting scheduled for January 20, 2014 on the new Talk2theAnimalsBlog.
Remember, you don’t have to be alone in your grief.
Do Dogs Get Lonely?
Yes, they do and they also get bored. They may not be able to share their emotions in a verbal way, but you will know by the actions, reactions and torn up kitchen garbage cans when left alone for too long. Dogs are pack animals and do not tolerate long periods of being alone. We do not know if they feel the emotions of lonliness as humans do, they do exhibit signs that being alone is not good for them.
We will discuss various ways to bond with your dog or animal and make seperations more easily tolerated by the entire "fur family."
Common Signs of Depresion in Dogs
1. Becoming withdrawn
2. Becoming inactive
3. Changes in sleep habits
4.Changes in appetite
Triggers and Treatment for Dog Depression and Anxiety.
Please be sure to stop by our website and join our community of kind, thoughtful people who want respect for all creatures, two and four footed. You will be glad you did. See us at www.deathofmypet.com You will be able to claim your free gift of a downloadable book on Animal Human Connection.
This weeks show will be on the grieving process. The following topics will be discussed:
Dealing with a loss of a pet is just like losing a family member or loved one. Each person may experience the stages in a different way and thats okay. With the help of Judy Helm Wright, certified pet grief counselor, she can set you on the path to healing. This is week 3 of the 6 week series so be sure to continue tuning in and learning How to Deal with the Loss of a Beloved Pet.
If you have a story that you wish to share send it to firstname.lastname@example.org with PET STORY in the subject line.
Sasha Sabbeth is an Entrepreneur Soul Coach with 23 years experience as a personal, spiritual, and business development consultant, speaker, and trainer. Her mission is to help clients craft themselves, their business, and their world to passionately live their Soul Purpose. Sasha's signature message is: Succeed In Sync With Your Soul ™
As a catalyst, Sasha aids individual clients and large audiences to connect to their intuition, core values, and their intrinsic talents.
Her simple, effective tools include Neuro Linguistic Programming, Print Strategies profile personality assessment tools, project design strategies, self hypnosis, law of attraction templates, intuition building, and stress management techniques. When appropriate, Sasha uses her unique transformative tool of vocal toning to help clients release the blocks that limit them, strengthen their goal attainment, and experience healing relaxation.
For devoted pet owners, Sasha offers leading edge resources which inspire clients to better care for and understand their pets. As a Reiki Master and a Soma Pi energy healer, Sasha transmits hands on or long distance healing energies to help pets recover from injury and illness. When ready to die, Sasha also assists pets to transition over the "Rainbow Bridge" and comforts their companions who are left behind.
Sasha's extraordinary relationship with her dog, Echo, influenced Sasha's commitment to the well being of animals. It was because of their deep love for each other and strong commitment to life, that Echo survived cancer for 11 years. She transitioned peacefully in Sasha's arms at the age of 17.
When a friend or loved one has lost their pet, it is often very hard to know what to say to help. With over 200 million pets owned in the US most of us will, at on time or another, be called upon to support an important person in our life in pet loss.
Bellow are some words NOT to say to someone who is grieving the loss of a pet.
1. it ws just a dog (cat, horse, vird, rabbit, gerbil, etc.)
If losing a pet is doing this to you, I would hate to see what you would do if you lost something really important, like a child.
At least you don't have the kitty litter (carpet spots, horse stall, cage) to deal with
"They are in a better place"
You can always get another dog (cat, horse, rabbit, gerbil)
I thought you were prepared for this or You might have known this was coming.
Enough time has passed, you should be getting over this by now or it's time to move on.
While it may be very hard to know what to say, an important part of support is knowing what not to say.
Judy Helm Wright, Pet Grief Coach, www.AnimalHumanConnection.info
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