I've seen people in relationships that you can tell no love exists. As a matter-of-fact, they don't even talk. Could it be that relationships have taken a turn to us staying there due to obligation as opposed to authentic love? Why do many jump in in the first place?
Mind you, when you make a decision to be in a committed relationship, does that make you obligated to the other individual? Is that a difference from being accountable? I believe partners become accountable because they are committed and because they want to and it allows trust to grow.. .you communicate because you want to... you love because you feel free and its simply natural to do with that person. To be obligated means you are morally or legally bound; you are committed or here we go...you feel a debt of gratitude for a service or favor. I feel there lies the problem...feeling indebted!
Because a person has been there for you financially, physically due to sickness, let you have a place to stay, etc., you may feel you owe them for it. In the end, it doesn't always turn out right. Please don't start the madness and be honest and true from the beginning. A void lies and one may begin cheating, both are not happy, the children see the stress. We need to assess the foundation to any relationship. Faking it in a relationship not only hurts the other person, it hurts YOU in the long run. The only proving you have to do is prove to yourself that you can always find the courage to do what is the absolute best for YOU, in spite of what society, your parents, your friend, your colleagues, and your church says! At the end of the day, being in an obligatory relationship is self-serving because you are trying to meet your own personal needs.
Let's talk about this tonight because we don't want to see anyone get into one or be on the other end of it!