By all means, we are advocates of marriage, we believe in love and relationship. We do know, because of unforgiveness, hardness of heart, infedility, etc., many marriages fail...and our children suffer. Tonight, we want to discuss "should people stay in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of the children and try to work it out?" Is that possible?
In loving environments, we know that we not only thrive, but our offspring thrive as well. So if there is no love, no trust, no respect, what does that show the children? Kids are not crazy, they can feel what goes on in an atmosphere. So what do we do to maintain structure in a family?
I learned from my parents what a marriage looks like and I tried to recreate just that. It just so happened that it did not work out. Could it have worked...maybe? But it takes two and the circumstance always arises. So for the sake of the kids, do we stay together? Understand that kids tend to do what we do. Some will feel it is okay to stay in a loveless marriage as it preserves some sort of structure while others learn if it is not working, to get out!
Don't think for a minute that your kids don't pick up on any of this, that you hide it from them, or that you teach them to "do as I say, not as I do". They are learning how to make relationships by watching what you do in yours. Let's talk about this tonight!