Are you kind to everyone but yourself?
In today's special guest's book, Out of Love: Finding Your Way Back to Self-Compassion, Marianne Ingheim, a doctoral student researching self-compassion, shows you how—and why—to be as kind and compassionate to yourself as you are to others.
Marianne Ingheim knows what it means to face adversity and tragedy. Raised in a rigid religious household, depression and anxiety were constants in her life. Diagnosed with breast cancer, she underwent a double mastectomy at 41. After that her husband, whom she had decided to divorce, committed suicide. These challenges prompted her to probe her own psychological patterns and coping mechanisms.
She soon realized that her brutal inner dialog and lack of self-compassion were under-recognized sources of suffering. They undermined her ability to face tough circumstances and made her feel as though happiness—even when life took turns for the positive—was out of reach. She committed to self-compassion, collected and customized a number of exercises to practice it, and saw changes in almost every area of her life. “What’s so amazing about self-compassion is that I can be the container for myself, taking care of me even when the world around me seems to be falling apart,” says Marianne.
Marianne Ingheim is a Danish-Norwegian American writer, teacher, and PhD student at the California Institute of Integral Studies.