Breakups can be one of the most painful and difficult experiences as humans. When we end a relationship (especially when we are the ones who were abandoned) our most deep insecurities arise, we question ourselves, our self-worth, our femininity or masculinity.
How difficult it becomes to get past this experience depends on our previous experiences with relationships (since the day we are born) and the past losses in our lives. It is a moment where we are emotionally open; our heart is open because we are feeling such raw feeling. A break-up is a perfect time to look at ourselves, to reflect on the type of relationships we establish, to recognize how re-relate to our feelings and ourselves and allows us the opportunity to grow.
Sometimes it takes us to hit rock bottom to start working on ourselves… we might have always known that we have certain insecurities, but we don't do anything about it. We become comfortable with what we have always known; we become comfortable relating to ourselves and others as we have always done so, even if this is dysfunctional. So, embrace a break up and take this time as an opportunity to heal from your past wounds, learn about yourself and grow.
Today's special guest, Dr. Carolina Castaños, Ph.D. is an award-winning Relationship and Marriage and Family Therapist with 20 years of experience who is shifting the way we think about love and relationships by bringing our focus back to the self. She is helping men and women overcome their past trauma in order to heal triggers and toxic patterns in relationships, and most importantly, lead happier, more fulfilling lives.