Perfectionism can be a blessing or a curse. When it helps us, it lifts our mood, and we can achieve significant accomplishments. But perpetually seeking an illusion can have serious consequences. It can become a painful, inescapable trap. Its self-sabotaging side effects undermine our goals and creativity and spill over onto our co-workers and loved ones, damaging our relationships. At worse, it can be dehumanizing and compromise our ability to feel love and experience joy.
Fortunately, it’s possible to beat perfectionism! In today's special guest, Darlene Lancer's book, I'm Not Perfect I'm Only Human she discusses different types of perfectionists, from positive perfectionists to negative, common myths they hold, and how relationships are affected. Other disorders are distinguished. Psychological, genetic, and environmental causes of perfectionism are explained with examples of typical symptoms, thoughts, and behaviors. Ten chapters provide steps and exercises to create change and find self-acceptance.
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. She is the author of eight books that are available on Amazon and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.”