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Ladies Avoid Situationships

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According to Urban Dictionary, a situationship is a relationship that has no label on it. It is like a friendship, but more than a friendship. However, it is not quite a relationship (with clear commitment that is). Basically a situationship is an unclear waste of time because usually you never end up getting that commitment. Either you continue to be strung along in this maze with vain hopes or the other person ends up giving commitment to someone else (which in that case it is obviously over).

An example they placed on the site:

Me: Me and this guy have been talking for six months now.  Friend: Are you guys together?  Me: It is like we are together, but we are not. It is more of a situationship that is happening.

This is a very painful and dangerous place to allow yourself to be in. Unlike a sex buddy arrangement, it tends to be more obvious that committment will not occur. However, in a situationship esepcially for females, you have your hopes of commitment very high because you two are engaged in many ways as if commitment were already there.

I wanted to talk on this to help others to not fall in this trap that so many of us ladies fall in and see that they deserve so much more. By God's grace this will also be helpful for ladies who continue to fall into it and feel that is all they deserve or that they will never receive better. God wants so much more for us regarding our relationships with others.

-I learned about the phrase from one of Dr. Cory Guyton's video 

Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."