When you look at yourself with compassion, your choices and ultimately your life with compassion, it brings an understanding of why. When we see our own innocence, when we understand our needs, we begin to understand why. Why, we made our choices, feel the way we do and think about others the way we do. For me, when I was in high school I made a lot of my choices on wanting to fit in and belong to the group and my friends. When I got my first boyfriend I made choices to feel like I belonged to him. I was trying to meet a need. Not all my choices were in alignment with my commitments. And, looking back I can have compassion with myself for making those choices.