http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheynDalma Heyn—cultural critic, psychotherapist and bestselling author, has been on the forefront of change in the lives and loves of postmodern women. Her bestselling books, The Erotic Silence of The American Wife; Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives; and Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy, hit a nerve both here and abroad and have been published in 34 languages. As a thought leader whose award-winning columns and intimate interviews with women on the edge—of marriage, of transgression, of despair, of reinvention—her work has been called revolutionary. Her insistence on listening to women, not on experts, has encouraged women to articulate a new paradigm of adult sexuality and helped to revise cultural and “expert” assumptions about women’s lives. enCopyright Dalma Heyn (C/O Blogtalkradio)Sat, 15 Jun 2019 15:30:00 GMTTue, 07 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMTWomenBlogTalkRadio Feed v2.0https://dasg7xwmldix6.cloudfront.net/hostpics/b8c5b6e5-8acd-429e-8689-268560f625cf_dalma-heyn.jpghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheynDalma Heyn—cultural critic, psychotherapist and bestselling author, has been on the forefront of change in the lives and loves of postmodern women. Her bestselling books, The Erotic Silence of The American Wife; Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives; and Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy, hit a nerve both here and abroad and have been published in 34 languages. As a thought leader whose award-winning columns and intimate interviews with women on the edge—of marriage, of transgression, of despair, of reinvention—her work has been called revolutionary. Her insistence on listening to women, not on experts, has encouraged women to articulate a new paradigm of adult sexuality and helped to revise cultural and “expert” assumptions about women’s lives. feeds@blogtalkradio.comBlogTalkRadio.comwomen,cheating,relationships,affairs,children,divorce,families,honesty,husbands,lovedalmaheynnoDalma Heyn—cultural critic, psychotherapist and bestselling author, has been on the forefront of change in the lives and loves of postmodern women. Her bestsellepisodichttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/08/07/the-myth-of-the-divorcing-manWomenhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/08/07/the-myth-of-the-divorcing-man/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/08/07/the-myth-of-the-divorcing-manTue, 07 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMTThe Myth of the Divorcing Man   In our cultural consciousness, marriages end because men tire of their wives and marry younger women. In our real world, though, women initiate 65 to 70 percent of divorces. I stated in my book Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives, that younger women were leaving; now, older women, in long-term marriages, are leaving as well. In today’s show my main question is: If over half of all women were leaving college, wouldn’t you ask, “What has to happen to make women want to stay in school?” I’m asking, What has to happen to make wives want to stay in marriage? 00:01:00dalmaheynnowomen,relationships,divorce,younger women,cheatingIn our cultural consciousness, marriages end because men tire of their wives and marry younger women. In our real world, though, women initiate 65 to 70 perhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/29/the-confession-myth-should-spouses-always-tell-the-truthWomenhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/29/the-confession-myth-should-spouses-always-tell-the-truth/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/29/the-confession-myth-should-spouses-always-tell-the-truthTue, 29 May 2012 15:00:00 GMTThe Confession Myth: Should Spouses Always Tell The Truth?   We have become a culture of compulsive truth-telling; we spill our feelings and our actions in the name of “complete disclosure” and “being honest.” We announce long-ago affairs to our partners; reveal details of our sexual pasts; confide the deepest reservations we have about our partners to them, as if they will all say, Wow! Awesome! Thanks for sharing! We have decided that truth, rather than discretion, is the moral way out of everything from a bad thought to bad behavior.  In today's episode of In Heynsight, Dalma discusses a big myth: That a in "good" relationship, partners should always tell each other the truth. Should they? What do you think? 00:14:00dalmaheynnomarriage,affairs,cheating,honesty,mythsWe have become a culture of compulsive truth-telling; we spill our feelings and our actions in the name of “complete disclosure” and “being honest.” We annohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/07/stepmothers-the-challenges-of-making-your-family-workWomenhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/07/stepmothers-the-challenges-of-making-your-family-work/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/05/07/stepmothers-the-challenges-of-making-your-family-workMon, 07 May 2012 17:00:00 GMTStepmothers: The Myths That Make Mother's Day Harder Mother's Day is not a happy celebration for many of the almost 15 million stepmothers America. Stepmothers, in fact, are rarely celebrated: Rather, they may be the most vilified women on the planet. (Has anyone ever said, "What I want more than anything is a stepmother"? Or, "What I want more than anything is to BE a stepmother"?) Many women have loving stepfamilies, of course, but many others are raising and nurturing children who resent them, and at the same time loving new husbands who don't know how to help them cope. The truth is, few stepfamilies ever blend. Not surprisingly, stepmothers --often expected to do the blending--are in danger of losing both their self-esteem and their desire to stay in these relationships. Many love myths make it even harder for stepmothers to regain their sense of self. Only once we understand these myths, and dispel them, can we understand not just why two-thirds of all stepfamily couples divorce, but why it's stepmothers who are the ones leading the way out the door.  Join our show today while we look at some of the myths about women, marriage, and motherhood that undermine all womens' happiness. Understanding where they came from and how to ditch them, can help stepmothers feel less alone on Mother's Day. 00:20:00dalmaheynnostepmothers,families,second marriage,husbands,childrenMother's Day is not a happy celebration for many of the almost 15 million stepmothers America. Stepmothers, in fact, are rarely celebrated: Rather, they may behttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/04/24/in-heyn-sight-radioWomenhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/04/24/in-heyn-sight-radio/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/dalmaheyn/2012/04/24/in-heyn-sight-radioTue, 24 Apr 2012 14:00:00 GMTThe 12 Love Myths: An Introduction   In the premiere episode of in HeynSight Radio, host Dalma Heyn discusses love myths—those deeply felt ideas about relationships that get passed on and on for generations until all we know is that we’ve always believed them and will continue to believe them. Says Dalma, "I call them myths not only because they have taken root in our consciousness, the way all ancient tales and legends do, but also because they are so...wrong.  A myth, after all, is defined both as “an ancient popular belief or idea” and “a widely held but false idea.” To believe in these ancient and popular love myths is to consign yourself to confusion and self-doubt when your own love stories don’t follow their scripts—and they most surely won’t.  Once you know that real love doesn’t follow a script that someone else wrote a century ago, but instead is a personal stories only you can write, you’ll be happier inside your own unconventional, surprising and unique relationships. Losing the myths, then, is the evolutionary’s job:  For only when we’re brave enough to believe in our own experience, and make that the narrative, can we find the  authentic connection we can thrive in. 00:18:00dalmaheynnolove myths,love,relationships,women,sexIn the premiere episode of in HeynSight Radio, host Dalma Heyn discusses love myths—those deeply felt ideas about relationships that get passed on and on fo