Northampton, MA – Dr. Donna Gilman Psy.D is a clinical psychologist and the founder of the Couples Center of the Pioneer Valley, a specialized center devoted to working primarily with couples.
“I look at couples counseling as doing very deep individual work that is witnessed by the partners,” says Dr. Gilman. “From my perspective, we're helping each individual grow deeper roots into healthy adulthood, and through that process, teaching them to be of support and service to their partner doing the same.”
Dr. Gilman says her clients are typically meeting with her because they're in crisis. Perhaps an affair has been revealed or the gridlock in their relationship has become unsustainable.
“For me it's the ability to know how to stabilize the system as quickly as possible,” says Dr. Gilman.
Dr. Gilman says her work is ultimately about getting the couple to a place where they are consciously and fully choosing one another in the most informed way.
“I don't see myself as a superhero out to save every relationship,” says Dr. Gilman. “It’s more about helping each person to more deeply understand the complexities of what they think and feel and need, which really is about understanding that most of us have opposing tensions or opposing values, inner conflicts.”
There's never a good time to be vulnerable when you're feeling your most insecure, but these skills can be practiced over time in our most intimate relationships.
For more information, visit www.pioneervalleycouplestherapy.com