http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrewDiscussing real life issue... Finding realistic solutions!enBlogTalkRadio.com. All Rights Reserved.Sun, 16 Jun 2019 03:30:00 GMTFri, 27 Feb 2015 01:00:00 GMTSocial NetworkingBlogTalkRadio Feed v2.0https://dasg7xwmldix6.cloudfront.net/hostpics/1004f317-38db-477f-87e3-b9637a2bc5a5_ccrew.jpghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrewDiscussing real life issue... Finding realistic solutions!feeds@blogtalkradio.comBlogTalkRadio.comsocial networking,sex,love,relationships,divorce,happiness,marriage,dating,men,relationshipBig Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoDiscussing real life issue... Finding realistic solutions!episodichttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/27/listen-in-every-thursday-night-8pm-est-to-the-curtsy-crewSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/27/listen-in-every-thursday-night-8pm-est-to-the-curtsy-crew/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/27/listen-in-every-thursday-night-8pm-est-to-the-curtsy-crewFri, 27 Feb 2015 01:00:00 GMTGIRL TALKWHY IS IT TABOO FOR WOMEN TO WATCH ? IS LYING ABOUT BUYING SOMETHING THE SAME AS HIM LYING ABOUT TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMEN? DO WOMEN REALLY STAY IN RLATIONSHIPS OF THEY'RE NOT HAPPY? 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnoovercoming,Love,relationships,marriage,divorceWHY IS IT TABOO FOR WOMEN TO WATCH ? IS LYING ABOUT BUYING SOMETHING THE SAME AS HIM LYING ABOUT TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMEN? DO WOMEN REALLY STAY IN RLATIONSHIPhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/20/love-language-part-iiSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/20/love-language-part-ii/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/20/love-language-part-iiFri, 20 Feb 2015 01:00:00 GMTLOVE LANGUAGE PART II DO YOU KNOW YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE? DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNERS LOVE LANGUAGE? 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoLove,relationships,divorce,parenting,african americanDO YOU KNOW YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE? DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNERS LOVE LANGUAGE?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/13/love-languageSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/13/love-language/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/13/love-languageFri, 13 Feb 2015 01:30:00 GMTLOVE LANGUAGEDO YOU KNOW YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE? DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNERS LOVE LANGUAGE? 00:31:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoLove,relationships,Education,reform,sexDO YOU KNOW YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE? DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNERS LOVE LANGUAGE?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/06/no-child-left-behind-actSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/06/no-child-left-behind-act/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/02/06/no-child-left-behind-actFri, 06 Feb 2015 01:00:00 GMTNO CHILD LEFT BEHIND ACTHOW EFFECTIVE IS THE NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND POLICY ACT? DOES IT PREPARE OR FAIL CHILDREN FOR THE FUTURE? WHAT ROLES DOES THE PARENT AND TEACHER PLAY IN EXECUTING THIS POLICY? 00:55:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessHOW EFFECTIVE IS THE NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND POLICY ACT? DOES IT PREPARE OR FAIL CHILDREN FOR THE FUTURE? WHAT ROLES DOES THE PARENT AND TEACHER PLAY IN EXECUTINhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/30/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/30/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/30/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 30 Jan 2015 01:00:00 GMTCOURTSHIPShould a women who ha no interest in marriage be courted? Who's responsibilty is it to maintain the courtship process? Once married should the courtship process be over? 00:56:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessShould a women who ha no interest in marriage be courted? Who's responsibilty is it to maintain the courtship process? Once married should the courtship procehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/23/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/23/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/23/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 23 Jan 2015 01:00:00 GMTBLACK AMERICA: LIGHT SKIN VS. DARK SKINWhat inequalities exist in the workplace as it relates to skin cmplexion? What responsibilities  does society play in the Black community views skin color? What roles does skin color place in the Black family? How do we deal with the sigma surrounded around skin complexion in Black community? 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessWhat inequalities exist in the workplace as it relates to skin cmplexion? What responsibilities  does society play in the Black community views skin color? Whhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/16/fatherless-homesSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/16/fatherless-homes/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/16/fatherless-homesFri, 16 Jan 2015 01:00:00 GMTFatherless HomesHow are fatherless homes affecting childen? Can a home with a father still be father-less? Does weekend parenting really work?     00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessHow are fatherless homes affecting childen? Can a home with a father still be father-less? Does weekend parenting really work?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/09/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/09/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2015/01/09/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 09 Jan 2015 01:00:00 GMTAFRICAN AMERICANS AND DEPRESSION: LET'S BREAK THE SILENCEWhy isnt it discussed more often in the black communities? How do we bring more awareness to african Americans?   00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessWhy isnt it discussed more often in the black communities? How do we bring more awareness to african Americans?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/19/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/19/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/19/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 19 Dec 2014 01:00:00 GMTTo Spank or Not to Spank…That is the QuestionShould you spank your children? What discipline is appropriate? What are the alternatives that parents recommend? 00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessShould you spank your children? What discipline is appropriate? What are the alternatives that parents recommend?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/12/body-augmentationSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/12/body-augmentation/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/12/body-augmentationFri, 12 Dec 2014 01:00:00 GMTBody Augmentation Are women enchancing their beauty or is self esteem at an all time low? 00:56:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoAre women enchancing their beauty or is self esteem at an all time low?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/05/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/05/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/12/05/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 05 Dec 2014 01:00:00 GMTSituationship vs. RelationshipWhat did you learn from your situationship? How long is to long to be ina situationship? How many situationship you have before marriage? 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessWhat did you learn from your situationship? How long is to long to be ina situationship? How many situationship you have before marriage?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/21/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/21/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/21/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 21 Nov 2014 01:00:00 GMTRELATIONSHIP MISCONCEPTIONDo misconception effect a relationship? Can " Hollywood Romances" really happen? Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship? 00:58:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessDo misconception effect a relationship? Can " Hollywood Romances" really happen? Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/14/is-common-courtesy-and-respect-dyingSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/14/is-common-courtesy-and-respect-dying/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/14/is-common-courtesy-and-respect-dyingFri, 14 Nov 2014 01:00:00 GMTIs Common Courtesy and Respect Dying?Is it a lack of parental guidance? Are we just to busy to acknowledge our neighbor or someone in passing? Have American become so disconnected or has society made us selfish? 00:54:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessIs it a lack of parental guidance? Are we just to busy to acknowledge our neighbor or someone in passing? Have American become so disconnected or has societyhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/07/soul-matesdo-they-existSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/07/soul-matesdo-they-exist/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/11/07/soul-matesdo-they-existFri, 07 Nov 2014 01:00:00 GMTSOUL MATES…DO THEY EXIST?  How do you know when you met your soul mate? Is it possible to love someone who is not your soul mate? Can you experience more than one soul mate in a lifetime?   00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessHow do you know when you met your soul mate? Is it possible to love someone who is not your soul mate? Can you experience more than one soul mate in a lifehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/31/laws-of-being-a-ladySocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/31/laws-of-being-a-lady/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/31/laws-of-being-a-ladyFri, 31 Oct 2014 00:00:00 GMTLAWS OF BEING A LADY  YOUR VAGAINA MAKES YOU A FEMALE BUT......  WHAT MAKES YOU A LADY? 00:58:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessYOUR VAGAINA MAKES YOU A FEMALE BUT......  WHAT MAKES YOU A LADY?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/24/do-i-have-to-do-what-you-say-or-do-i-1Social Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/24/do-i-have-to-do-what-you-say-or-do-i-1/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/24/do-i-have-to-do-what-you-say-or-do-i-1Fri, 24 Oct 2014 00:00:00 GMTDO I HAVE TO DO WHAT YOU SAY: OR DO I?  AS A WIFE DO YOU THINK THAT YOU SHOULD BE SUBMISSIVE? WHO SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR PAYING THE BILLS IN THE HOUSE? SHOULD THE WIFE BE THE ONLY PERSON COOKING, TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN AND CLEANING?  DO I HAVE TO HAVE SEX IF I DONT WANT TO?   00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessAS A WIFE DO YOU THINK THAT YOU SHOULD BE SUBMISSIVE? WHO SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR PAYING THE BILLS IN THE HOUSE? SHOULD THE WIFE BE THE ONLY PERSON COOKIhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/17/social-media-real-life-or-real-problemsSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/17/social-media-real-life-or-real-problems/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/17/social-media-real-life-or-real-problemsFri, 17 Oct 2014 00:00:00 GMTSOCIAL MEDIA: REAL LIFE OR REAL PROBLEMS  Has social media interfered with parenting? Can it comes between to people that love each other? Is social media a part of life now?     01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessHas social media interfered with parenting? Can it comes between to people that love each other? Is social media a part of life now?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/10/what-kind-of-christian-are-youSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/10/what-kind-of-christian-are-you/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/10/what-kind-of-christian-are-youFri, 10 Oct 2014 00:00:00 GMTWHAT KIND OF CHRISTIAN ARE YOU?  A Wheel BarrowA CanoeA Football Listen in tonight to find out WHAT TYPE OF CHRISTIAN ARE YOU? 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessA Wheel BarrowA CanoeA Football Listen in tonight to find out WHAT TYPE OF CHRISTIAN ARE YOU?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/03/are-we-self-sabotaging-our-livesSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/03/are-we-self-sabotaging-our-lives/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/10/03/are-we-self-sabotaging-our-livesFri, 03 Oct 2014 00:00:00 GMTAre We Self Sabotaging Our Lives?00:59:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinesshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/26/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/26/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/26/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 26 Sep 2014 00:00:00 GMTWhy Women don't Unite with other Women?Why do you think women can't unite with other women? Why is it so hard for women to give other women compliments? Have you ever had an issue with a women due to jealousy? 00:58:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessWhy do you think women can't unite with other women? Why is it so hard for women to give other women compliments? Have you ever had an issue with a women duehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/19/cyber-datingSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/19/cyber-dating/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/19/cyber-datingFri, 19 Sep 2014 00:00:00 GMTCyber Dating1.) Can love be found via Online dating and/or social media sites? 2.) Ever tried dating sites? What has been your experiences? 3.) How can one differentiate an authentic wholesome relationship against a fake one through dating sites / social media? 4.) How are emotions and feelings conveyed? 4 a.) How can trust be established? 5.) What are the drawbacks and positive attributes associated with a cyber relationship? 6.) Cyber Dating /Social media Do's and Don'ts..   00:58:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happiness1.) Can love be found via Online dating and/or social media sites? 2.) Ever tried dating sites? What has been your experiences? 3.) How can one differentiatehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/12/abuse-where-do-you-draw-the-lineSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/12/abuse-where-do-you-draw-the-line/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/12/abuse-where-do-you-draw-the-lineFri, 12 Sep 2014 00:00:00 GMTAbuse: Where Do You Draw the Line?  She hit him. Can He hit her back? Why is physical abuse considered worse than verbal abuse? Should family interfer when abuse occurs? 00:58:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessShe hit him. Can He hit her back? Why is physical abuse considered worse than verbal abuse? Should family interfer when abuse occurs?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/05/roundtable-dicussion-war-on-fergusonSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/05/roundtable-dicussion-war-on-ferguson/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/09/05/roundtable-dicussion-war-on-fergusonFri, 05 Sep 2014 00:00:00 GMTRoundtable Dicussion: War On Ferguson01:01:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinesshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/22/pandoras-box-curtsy-conversation-lets-talk-about-sex-baby-part-iiSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/22/pandoras-box-curtsy-conversation-lets-talk-about-sex-baby-part-ii/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/22/pandoras-box-curtsy-conversation-lets-talk-about-sex-baby-part-iiFri, 22 Aug 2014 01:00:00 GMTPANDORA'S BOX: CURTSY CONVERSATION (LETS TALK ABOUT SEX BABY PART II)Are you wondering why you are stuck in the girlfriend zone? Has someone told you that maybe you just aren't wife material? Are you picking the wrong mate because you are choosing my your orgasm? Tune in to Big Ticket Talk w/ The Curtsy Crew to discuss these topics. Can't wait to talk to you Thursday Night at 9pm EST/8 pm CST! 01:00:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,happiness,marriageAre you wondering why you are stuck in the girlfriend zone? Has someone told you that maybe you just aren't wife material? Are you picking the wrong mate becahttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/15/situationship-vs-relationshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/15/situationship-vs-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/15/situationship-vs-relationshipFri, 15 Aug 2014 01:00:00 GMTSituationship vs. RelationshipWhat did you learn from your situationship? How long is to long to be ina situationship? How many situationship you have before marriage? 00:57:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnosex,relationships,Love,divorce,happinessWhat did you learn from your situationship? How long is to long to be ina situationship? How many situationship you have before marriage?http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/08/cheaters-are-you-sleeping-w-the-enemy-1Social Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/08/cheaters-are-you-sleeping-w-the-enemy-1/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/08/cheaters-are-you-sleeping-w-the-enemy-1Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:00:00 GMTCHEATERS: Are You Sleeping w/ the Enemy?CHEATERS 1. What causes someone to tip out on their relationship? 2. Tell-tell signs that you're being cheated on? 3. If you find out your long time mate has cheated, do you end the relationship or stay? 4. Can one recover from cheating? 5. What are the tips to establish a cheater-proof relationship? 00:45:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy Crewnocheaters,lust,Temptation,marriage,enemyCHEATERS 1. What causes someone to tip out on their relationship? 2. Tell-tell signs that you're being cheated on? 3. If you find out your long time mate hashttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/01/lets-talk-child-support-whats-your-situationSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/01/lets-talk-child-support-whats-your-situation/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/08/01/lets-talk-child-support-whats-your-situationFri, 01 Aug 2014 01:00:00 GMTLet's talk CHILD SUPPORT! What's your situation?Child Support: Who's really responsible? Do you pay child support? Do you think you should or shouldn't? Do you think the court should order non-finianical support?   Join the crew and let's talk about it!  00:45:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoSex,celibacy,Relationship,dating,marriageChild Support: Who's really responsible? Do you pay child support? Do you think you should or shouldn't? Do you think the court should order non-finianicalhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/25/these-girls-aint-loyal-true-friendshipSocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/25/these-girls-aint-loyal-true-friendship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/25/these-girls-aint-loyal-true-friendshipFri, 25 Jul 2014 01:00:00 GMTThese Girls Ain't Loyal : True FriendshipA True Friendship is hard to come by. If you are one who has the gift of true friendship in your life you are fortunate. What is True Friendship? Is there a difference between Friends vs. Assiocates? Can you be someone's friend and they not be yours? Join the crew and let's talk about it!  00:46:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoRelationship,friendship,Loyality,trust,crewA True Friendship is hard to come by. If you are one who has the gift of true friendship in your life you are fortunate. What is True Friendship? Is there a dhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/18/lets-talk-about-sex-babySocial Networkinghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/18/lets-talk-about-sex-baby/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/curtsycrew/2014/07/18/lets-talk-about-sex-babyFri, 18 Jul 2014 01:00:00 GMTLETS TALK ABOUT SEX BABY!Sex. The burst of emotions that you experience, the hightening of senses, and the feeling of euphoria. Are we seeking the experience or are we solidifying a relationship? Is your relationship strong enought to survive if you alleviate sex? Do you think that sex is important in a relationship? Would you date someone that is celibate? Can you wait?   Tune in Thursday night at 9 PM EST. LETS TALK ABOUT SEX! COME HANG WITH THE CREW!! 00:47:00Big Ticket Talk wX The Curtsy CrewnoSex,celibacy,Relationship,dating,marriageSex. The burst of emotions that you experience, the hightening of senses, and the feeling of euphoria. Are we seeking the experience or are we solidifying a re